What is your family name?

[Shadowskream459]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Don't you have a big brother?

As for families that do stuff like that, they're stupid.

No I have a big, but we don't have a family. He's just my big, and I have a grand big, etc, etc, but we don't call ourselves a family. And like I said earlier about our lineages, our only difference is our jersey color. The gold lineage (mine) is the biggest in our Zeta, but no one makes a deal out of it. I just don't understand why you would have a sub-group in your fraterntiy, but we're a relatively small campus, with small orgs. We're the largest on campus at approx 45 members, so we all hang out. No need for cliques I guess.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Shadowskream459

No I have a big, but we don't have a family. He's just my big, and I have a grand big, etc, etc, but we don't call ourselves a family.

But you are a family. You just don't make a big deal out of it or give yourselves a name. Some chapters do. Different strokes for different folks.

[gtdxeric]

In my undergrad chapter, the families are named after the founding father that they could trace back to. Mine was Drewry.

[TinyDancer98]

I don't see families as cliques really, at least in my chapter. It can make a chapter seem smaller and easier to access, especially for new members, and it can also help bridge the gap between pledge classes as well as between collegians and alumnae. I was pretty shy at first when I joined, and I definitely would not be as close with my "family" members as I am now had I not been placed with them and included in family events, etc. Big-little relationships tend to be pretty close in our chapter, and essentially having a "family" just builds on that- kind of like meeting people through your friends. I don't really see it as being that different from other subgroups within the chapter (like we have prides, etc) except it's more long-term and usually much closer. I certainly don't think they break up the overall sisterhood in any way.

[tinydancer16]

We do have families within my chapter but they're not heavily stressed, although everyone knows my family in particular because we're "The Spanish Family" and it's a sort of dominant common trait for us My big is suuuper white bread but is obsessed with everything spanish (and hispanic) and she found me and fell in love bcs I'm half Mexican and speak spanish, and then my little is just like my big and my g-little I found during rush (from across the room!) because she's Dominican haha...we just can't help it, we seem to gravitate towards one another inexplicably

Too many TinyDancers.

[tinydancer16]

Originally Posted by OTW

Too many TinyDancers.

Yeeeah, sorry. I saw it after I posted. (Note the join date though...I was here fiiiirst )

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Kind of like finding a puppy at the pound and wanting to take it home? How objectifying.

I knew as soon as I posted it written that way that someone was going to misconstrue what I said. It was meant to be glib and not all that serious, I didn't really want to bore everyone with the details of my Big and I becoming family. Suffice it to say she and I did not become big and little merely because I'm hispanic and speak Spanish; she and I have an incredibly close relationship, we just happened to initally connect over that common bond.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by tinydancer16

she found me and fell in love bcs I'm half Mexican and speak spanish

Kind of like finding a puppy at the pound and wanting to take it home? How objectifying.