People that you would NOT recommend.

carnation · #1 07-15-2008, 08:28 PM

Oh, this is easy for me. I have sent in soooo many positive recommendations. I have sent in 2 no-recs.

Several years ago, I traveled overseas with some Senior Girl Scouts. Two were super, one had me coming apart every 10 minutes and wanting to call the national office to scream at them for choosing her. Apparently, she looked good on paper.

We were in a very conservative country and she showed up with green hair in a freaky spiked haircut. Of course, she was literally stopping traffic everywhere. She kept trying to pick up French sailors. Then at the end of the campout--conservative country, remember--she made up a dirty song for the closing. And a few months later, she called to ask me for a Pi Phi rec!!!!!

The other one was a counselor at a camp where several of my older daughters and I worked. She had a violent temper and screamed at several campers and counselors. She slapped some counselors and later the assistant director. She gouged her with her fingernail when she did that.

So she asked for recs from us and told us that she was a legacy to one of my daughters' groups. We could not write our no-recs fast enough (only no- rec my daughter has ever written). Later, an alum from the legacy group called to thank my daughter and told her that she found out that the girl had a police record.

Now get this--a year later, another daughter went and visited that campus and we met a sorority member. She told us that an administrator had all but forced her group to pledge the girl, who had caused major drama and been kicked out within weeks.

And ladies, this is what you save your no-recs for!

UGAalum94 · #2 07-15-2008, 08:37 PM

Absolutely! And at least you all had the peace of mind of knowing you did your best to warn them.

ETA: Do you think green haired girl just really was that clueless about what was appropriate? It just seems that if she called and asked for the rec. that she had absolutely no idea how bad her behavior was.

carnation · #3 07-15-2008, 09:21 PM

She seemed to be going out of her way to shock people. The weird thing was that if you looked at her application--on which she had a regular hairstyle-- you would have thought that she was this kinda dumpy, geeky kid. Okay, that would have been fine. Trying her best to offend people (her newly created persona, I suppose), even strangers out on the street, was horrendous.

The only thing that kept me sane was that the Australian leader had a Maori kid who was doing the same thing and we banded together for support.

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

ETA: Do you think green haired girl just really was that clueless about what was appropriate? It just seems that if she called and asked for the rec. that she had absolutely no idea how bad her behavior was.

UGAalum94 · #4 07-15-2008, 09:33 PM

It also seems that overnight trips bring out the weirdness in some kids too. And the kids you might have wondered about as you got ready for the trip are angels.

carnation · #5 07-15-2008, 09:43 PM

And this was no overnight trip!

It was a 3-week trip to 3 countries representing the Girl Scouts of the USA! When we dropped her off on the return trip, one of the other girls was literally crying in relief.

I almost forgot!!! This is the worst! We were landing in California and she said, "You know that ivory shop we were in in Hong Kong? Well, after y'all left, I went back and bought some and that suitcase over there is full of it." ILLEGAL IVORY! AAAAHHH!!! WE'RE ALL GOING TO GET ARRESTED!

We stepped up to customs--we were in uniform-- and the agents waved us through, saying ,"Girl Scouts! Like you're going to smuggle anything!"

And she asked for a Pi Phi rec....

UGAalum94 · #6 07-15-2008, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by carnation

And this was no overnight trip!

It was a 3-week trip to 3 countries representing the Girl Scouts of the USA! When we dropped her off on the return trip, one of the other girls was literally crying in relief.

I almost forgot!!! This is the worst! We were landing in California and she said, "You know that ivory shop we were in in Hong Kong? Well, after y'all left, I went back and bought some and that suitcase over there is full of it." ILLEGAL IVORY! AAAAHHH!!! WE'RE ALL GOING TO GET ARRESTED!

We stepped up to customs--we were in uniform-- and the agents waved us through, saying ,"Girl Scouts! Like you're going to smuggle anything!"

And she asked for a Pi Phi rec....

Wow. I don't think I'd ever sign up for a trip like that unless I could hand pick the kids.
Do you think she really bought any ivory or was she just going for maximum stress on you?

What ever ended up happening to her in rush?

carnation · #7 07-15-2008, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Wow. I don't think I'd ever sign up for a trip like that unless I could hand pick the kids.
Do you think she really bought any ivory or was she just going for maximum stress on you?

What ever ended up happening to her in rush?

She decided to stress us all out by pulling out some of the pieces in the airport and I backhanded her. (Okay, she did that but I didn't really.) Then she pulled out her whole haul at our host's house.

All I know, and this was because our magazine used to publish our pledge classes' names, is that she didn't manage to slip through and pledge us!

pinkyphimu · #8 07-15-2008, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by carnation

I almost forgot!!! This is the worst! We were landing in California and she said, "You know that ivory shop we were in in Hong Kong? Well, after y'all left, I went back and bought some and that suitcase over there is full of it." ILLEGAL IVORY! AAAAHHH!!! WE'RE ALL GOING TO GET ARRESTED!

We stepped up to customs--we were in uniform-- and the agents waved us through, saying ,"Girl Scouts! Like you're going to smuggle anything!"

And she asked for a Pi Phi rec....

I almost fell off the couch laughing!!! What a peach!

Jill1228 · #9 07-16-2008, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by carnation

And this was no overnight trip!

It was a 3-week trip to 3 countries representing the Girl Scouts of the USA! When we dropped her off on the return trip, one of the other girls was literally crying in relief.

I almost forgot!!! This is the worst! We were landing in California and she said, "You know that ivory shop we were in in Hong Kong? Well, after y'all left, I went back and bought some and that suitcase over there is full of it." ILLEGAL IVORY! AAAAHHH!!! WE'RE ALL GOING TO GET ARRESTED!

We stepped up to customs--we were in uniform-- and the agents waved us through, saying ,"Girl Scouts! Like you're going to smuggle anything!"

And she asked for a Pi Phi rec....

Holy shite! She had some chutzpah! I can hear your thoughts as she asked for a rec:

"Honey, I got your rec RIGHT HERE"

breathesgelatin · #10 07-15-2008, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by carnation

Now get this--a year later, another daughter went and visited that campus and we met a sorority member. She told us that an administrator had all but forced her group to pledge the girl, who had caused major drama and been kicked out within weeks.

Wow, this really relates back to some of the discussions we were having earlier this week in the quota thread.

VandalSquirrel · #11 07-15-2008, 08:50 PM

I wrote my one and only DO NOT RECOMMEND on a woman who said nasty things about my sorority and chapter to my face. It wasn't like she was repeating rumors because she was clueless about rush or had no idea I am an Alpha Gam. She then proceeded to say she only wanted to be an XYZ or an ABC and said unsavory things about the other chapters.

It blows my mind that women think we only have friends in our own chapters and wouldn't give a heads up about their behavior to our friends. If I wouldn't want a woman as my sister, to the point I'd no rec her, you best believe I pass along the info to a friend and let her chose what to do with it.