I need advice about the boyfriend... (this is long)

[PrettyBoy]

I'm not sure if the OP set her limits early on, but it's important to set limits and make them clear to him. I know you said you've been with him for two years, but if you're someone who allows yourself to be treated in a certain way in the beginning of a relationship, then you're allowing the problem to get a foothold in the relationship, and all it's going to do is grow. From what I'm reading, he seems to be kind of selfish, and he seems to be putting himself before you. You definitely don't want these dynamics present in the relationship at all. You need to let him know what's up. I wouldn't cut the joker aloose, but at the same time I wouldn't overlook his behavior either. Overlooking certain negative character patterns long-term can lead to a real problem. I didn't think long distance relationships worked at one time, but now I'm doing the long distance thing myself. I find that it helps to just be upfront, very clear and specific about whatever the problem is. It just boils down to good, satisfying communication in order to resolve an issue between two people.

Good luck. I hope you two can communicate with each other and get through it.

ETA: I also read what you e-mailed him, and his reaction. He was drunk and being disrespectful to you huh? o.k.

You will get what you tolerate.