Suicide/Too short?

[Elephant Walk]

It's a greek system so competitive that girls kill themselves if they don't get the right house.

[KSUViolet06]

Example:

Let's say I get invited to preference round parties at XYZ, DEF, and ABC.

After the parties, I'm supposed to list those 3 on my final card, in order of preference. So if ABC was my fave, I would list them #1, and also put the other 2 as my 2nd and 3rd choice because I still like them and would take a bid from either of them if I didn't get one from ABC. This ensures that I've maximized my chances of receiving a bid because I have listed the max number of chapters allowed on a pref card. This does not neccessarily guarantee a bid (as there are instances where a girl is "cross cut" and doesn't get a bid from any of the 3), but it does help your chances immensely.
In contrast:


"Suiciding" is when I attend those 3 preference parties (ABC, DEF, XYZ) but in the end decide that I would ONLY accept a bid from my #1 choice (ABC) since they are my favorite. So on my final card, I only list ABC as #1 and don't list the other 2 AT ALL. So instead of having 3 sororities on my final card, I only have my fave, ABC. So I only have one option, and if I don't get a bid from ABC, I GET NO BID AT ALL on Bid Day (because I have no 2nd or 3rd choices listed).

It's called "suiciding" just because as you can see, it's risky. You have to be pretty sure that this one sorority wants you enough to give you a bid, and you also would have to be okay with going completely bidless if they didn't give you one. It's not impossible for girls to "suicide" and get a bid, but it's not the norm (since it is discouraged at most schools because they want as many girls to get bids as possible).

[ta kala]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

This ensures that during bid matching, I will still end up with a bid on Bid Day even if it's not my top choice.

Not entirely. There are women who have been "cross cut" and have not received a bid from any chapter they listed, even if they maximized their options. There are some schools that do promise a bid if you maximize, but not all.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by ta kala

Not entirely. There are women who have been "cross cut" and have not received a bid from any chapter they listed, even if they maximized their options. There are some schools that do promise a bid if you maximize, but not all.

Oh my goodness I went back and read my post and totally realized that I was incorrect. How could I forget that? I'll edit.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

It's a greek system so competitive that girls kill themselves if they don't get the right house.

EW, do you need another parental lecture? Be a help, not a hindrance.

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

EW, do you need another parental lecture? Be a help, not a hindrance.

A blessing not a burden?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

It's a greek system so competitive that girls kill themselves if they don't get the right house.

LMAO

I so needed this laugh.

[twinkle555]

KC,
All of these are great descriptions of what "suiciding" aka ISP, "Intentional Single Pref" are. For the most part, I dont think it is ever a good idea to suicide. There are way too many risks involved in the recruitment process that make it not worth it to me.

Besides, if a chapter invited you back all week, they must see something great in you that perhaps you dont see in yourself, which is a genuinly good thing. Although, on my campus (not sure if this is true everywhere), if you receive a bid from a chapter on bid day, and you gave them a chance and they still werent for you, you would have to wait a calendar year to go through recruitment again.

As for the dress issue: Is it a sundress or a more formal pref dress? I was thinking if it were a casual, cute dress, say like from Forever 21, you could get away with wearing leggings underneath since they are in style

Good luck, keep us posted and have fun at recruitment!