Suicide/Too short?

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by alphagamgirl06

I would never advise suiciding but if come downs to pref night and you know that if you got a bid from XYZ you WOULDN'T accept it, then I would say go ahead and suicide. Just because that chapter weren't your first choice they could have been someone else's and I would rather another girl get a bid who wants to be there then someone who's heart is somewhere. Just remember to stay open minded give every chapter a chance. If you get a bid from a chapter that wasn't your first choice try it out you may end up finding out that chapter was actually the best one for you, and if it isn't then well at least you gave it a shot.

I read this and it reminded me of a girl that was in my IIX group. She visited 3 sororities on pref day and when bid day came she received a bid to her 3rd choice. she was obviously upset and she shed a few tears but she now LOVES her chapter and is still a very active sister I think she realized that the first two houses were not who she really was and the 3rd choice was where she fit perfectly all along.

[33girl]

I won't go into the suicide issue cause there are many variables.

As for the dress issue - I am tall and feeling you on the everything looks hoochie (esp if your legs in particular are long). Ditch the shorter pieces.

[SuperblySigma]

Originally Posted by twinkle555

I read this and it reminded me of a girl that was in my IIX group. She visited 3 sororities on pref day and when bid day came she received a bid to her 3rd choice. she was obviously upset and she shed a few tears but she now LOVES her chapter and is still a very active sister I think she realized that the first two houses were not who she really was and the 3rd choice was where she fit perfectly all along.

Precisely! It took me months to realize that the chapter I had originally really, really wanted wasn't everything I thought they were. Turns out a week just wasn't long enough, and that what I wanted out of a chapter was a little different from what the tent talking girls thought made a good chapter.

A couple girls in my chapter found out a few months back that one of our favorite sisters had actually put my chapter last on her preference form. We were all shocked. She faked it till she made it, put on a happy face and did her best to carve a niche within the chapter. Now, she is very popular within the chapter and loved for her bright attitude and her way of having fun even when we're all about to go loopy from exhaustion. How awful would it have been if she hadn't listed my chapter at all?

Don't be afraid to maximize your options, PNMs!

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by SuperblySigma

A couple girls in my chapter found out a few months back that one of our favorite sisters had actually put my chapter last on her preference form. We were all shocked. She faked it till she made it, put on a happy face and did her best to carve a niche within the chapter. Now, she is very popular within the chapter and loved for her bright attitude and her way of having fun even when we're all about to go loopy from exhaustion. How awful would it have been if she hadn't listed my chapter at all?

This is such a wonderful example of why to list all chapters on your pref card. Sometimes the place you aren't sure you'll fit in will be the right place for you.