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Old 06-19-2008, 02:01 AM
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I am neither a wife nor a mother, but I agree srmom and thanks for stating it so well.

Kato, as others have said- coming later than usual to fraternity life is far more acceptable for servicemen than it would be for most people. So from that standpoint while you might encounter roadblocks at certain chapters, you should still have choices.

The question I think for you is how this would fit into your overall life plan. A chapter does not have to engage in illegal hazing activities to make pledgeship a very demanding time committment.
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Totally reasonable concern, and one that I have as well. Which is why questions about just what would be expected of me would be formost amongst any asked of a prospective chapter.

There is definately a line at which I'd have to agree "too much time would be too much time". What that is precisely, I am not sure. It would probably have to mean that a Greek experience provided less time for me to spend with my family than I had in the Army. My wife and I are used to me leaving for work at 5:30 AM and returning at 6-7 PM 5 days a week. We're used to me having to go "into the field" for training on a Thursday afternoon and returning at midnight that Sunday. Leaving for a month at a time to training center around the country. Etc etc.

I'm not overly concerned about the time committment. Staying over for a night a week or something similar would be par for the course in our normal experience. I completely understand the rationality in the comments about time investments, however, and absolutely for someone used to normal routines and with spouses that have more conventional expectations on what is "normal", it would probably be too much.

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Kato,

Time for me to finally jump in... I'd strongly encourage you to look into the Sigma Nu chapter at UW. Sigma Nu was founded at Virginia Military Institute as a protest movement to hazing in 1866 just after the Civil War by three combat veterans. Like you, they were non-traditional students seeking a degree - in their case, engineering, so they could help rebuild the South which had been devastated by the war. As combat veterans, they had little interest in hazing which they considered kid stuff.
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Thanks very much for this information. I will absolutely get in touch with Sigma Nu to introduce myself and ask a few questions.

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Thank you for your service to our country. I'm sorry it didn't allow for you to have a traditional college experience.

But I have to say, that from a sorority girl's perspective, the only thing that comes to my mind when I think about a guy who is 34 hanging out with a pledge class of guys half his age is this:

Well... I can't really help that. Everyone has labels attached to them that aren't accurate or true. I've had worse than "lecher" just serving my country. I would gladly take the Dazed&Confused example over "uneducated simpleton", "man whore" or very occasionally "murderer" which I had to unfairly wear over the past few years simply due to my occupation.

Besides, if some sorority girl takes the time to label me, she's obviously paying a little too much attention to a married man. And probably got shot down.
 


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