college visitation etiquette

honeychile · #1 06-09-2008, 11:11 AM

Wow! When I was in school, we had to give a two weeks notice and get a confirmation before visiting another chapter. I don't know if that still holds true or not.

Senusret I · #2 06-09-2008, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

Wow! When I was in school, we had to give a two weeks notice and get a confirmation before visiting another chapter. I don't know if that still holds true or not.

I expect as much when Alphas or APO brothers are coming to DC and want to hang out or need a place to crash.

It's not official protocol though.

fantASTic · #3 06-09-2008, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

Wow! When I was in school, we had to give a two weeks notice and get a confirmation before visiting another chapter. I don't know if that still holds true or not.

Well...she's not really VISITING the chapter, is she? Just taking a picture of the outside. If we got an email from someone saying, "Hey, I'm an AST from _______ Chapter and I want to come take a picture of your house! But don't worry, I don't need to talk to anyone or tour it!" I would find that over the top and unnecessary.

If I was her, I would just go and take the dang picture. It's not a big deal.

honeychile · #4 06-09-2008, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by fantASTic

Well...she's not really VISITING the chapter, is she? Just taking a picture of the outside. If we got an email from someone saying, "Hey, I'm an AST from _______ Chapter and I want to come take a picture of your house! But don't worry, I don't need to talk to anyone or tour it!" I would find that over the top and unnecessary.

If I was her, I would just go and take the dang picture. It's not a big deal.

I took the "need" in her post a bit more seriously. Taking a photo of ANY fraternity or sorority house would be public domain, wouldn't it? Yet, it would still be nice to ask permission.

FYI, I was about to take a picture of a historic house once when I realized that people lived there. When I asked if they minded if I took a photo, they couldn't have been more pleased.

violetpretty · #5 06-09-2008, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

Wow! When I was in school, we had to give a two weeks notice and get a confirmation before visiting another chapter. I don't know if that still holds true or not.

By "visiting", do you mean passing through and stopping by to see the house or staying in the chapter house?

honeychile · #6 06-10-2008, 10:57 AM

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By "visiting", do you mean passing through and stopping by to see the house or staying in the chapter house?

Both. It was felt that every chapter has the right to let out of chapter sisters see theirs in the best of lights. Not every chapter has a house mother and/or cleaning crew.

breathesgelatin · #7 06-10-2008, 03:32 PM

I've got to say that I've consistently felt that some of the recommendations given by some members in terms of visiting houses are a little overzealous. I really think that calling X number of weeks in advance if you're just stopping by to take a picture is overdoing it and might weird out the members.

Yes, if it's a formal visit with a lot of people, you do need to do that. Just you dropping by for a 5 minute visit? I don't think it's necessary.

I sort of wonder if it's an age gap thing.

33girl · #8 06-10-2008, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by breathesgelatin

I've got to say that I've consistently felt that some of the recommendations given by some members in terms of visiting houses are a little overzealous. I really think that calling X number of weeks in advance if you're just stopping by to take a picture is overdoing it and might weird out the members.

Yes, if it's a formal visit with a lot of people, you do need to do that. Just you dropping by for a 5 minute visit? I don't think it's necessary.

I sort of wonder if it's an age gap thing.

I'm older than you and I totally agree. If someone had called us to ask if they could take a picture of our house I would have thought she was a stalker freakazoid.

However, if someone would have walked up to the door, knocked and said "Hey! I'm an ASA from State U. My brother's here doing a college tour, and I just wanted to stop by and say hi. Do you mind if I take a picture of the house to show my chapter sisters - all we have is a dorm and we always wonder what other chapters' houses look like" - that would have been fine.

And like ISUKappa said, most houses will probably be closed over summer anyway so it's a moot point.

breathesgelatin · #9 06-11-2008, 01:01 AM

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However, if someone would have walked up to the door, knocked and said "Hey! I'm an ASA from State U. My brother's here doing a college tour, and I just wanted to stop by and say hi. Do you mind if I take a picture of the house to show my chapter sisters - all we have is a dorm and we always wonder what other chapters' houses look like" - that would have been fine.

Exactly. People did this with our chapter a bunch and I have done it myself. There was never weirdness, and I've done it at schools where the house is very formal, etc.