Legacy Dilemma

[tld221]

Originally Posted by taurus0426

I have been to some of the regional events and participated in HS programs. I've also been to some grad functions as a guest of my program sponsor so I have some background. But what I dont get is why would my mother care where I joined? She hasnt been active in 30+ years yet I mention I might do some more research on the other 3 or *gasp* NPC she looks at me like I went nuts. I flat out asked her what she thought of me joining one of the NPCs and she said "why?" This goes for my friend and BF, their familes are flipping out at the thought of them not following in their footsteps when they joined at a different time period/different campus and the chapters on our campuses might not be good fits for us.

Question for legacies out there...was there ever any pressure to join by family members or was it just happenstance that it was a good fit for you too?

Well, if you decide to rush an NPC, im sure "Why XYZ?" will come up. Wait, let me not assume.

NPCers, do you blatantly ask "Why do you want to be an XYZ?" during rush? or is that some rule infraction?

Originally Posted by tld221

NPCers, do you blatantly ask "Why do you want to be an XYZ?" during rush? or is that some rule infraction?

As far as I know asking that question does not break any rules and I have asked rushees that in the past, usually right before Pref Ceremony.

[taurus0426]

Originally Posted by tld221

Well, if you decide to rush an NPC, im sure "Why XYZ?" will come up. Wait, let me not assume.

NPCers, do you blatantly ask "Why do you want to be an XYZ?" during rush? or is that some rule infraction?

No what I mean is she's saying why in regards to why would I join a WHITE sorority. If I joined any other D4 she'd probably be miffed but be like "at least its NPHC" like that's reinforcing I'm still black I'm starting to think this may be a generation clash.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by taurus0426

No what I mean is she's saying why in regards to why would I join a WHITE sorority. If I joined any other D4 she'd probably be miffed but be like "at least its NPHC" like that's reinforcing I'm still black I'm starting to think this may be a generation clash.

its not her decision. its yours.

and if you cant explain to your mom "why a white sorority" then you might have to work on that, because it wont be the first or last time youre asked that. hell, maybe your decision will encourage your mom to be active again, in some weird way.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by taurus0426

No what I mean is she's saying why in regards to why would I join a WHITE sorority. If I joined any other D4 she'd probably be miffed but be like "at least its NPHC" like that's reinforcing I'm still black I'm starting to think this may be a generation clash.

This might be true on the surface but if you dig deeper, you'll find that a lot of NPHC members and people interested in the NPHC orgs really just like the way we do things versus other councils. They really admire our missions, values, and awe-inspiring legacies. They are really impressed by the fact that we take our lifetime commitment very seriously and the commitment to our communities very seriously. We actually feel like it's our duty and responsibility to uplift and support the Black community and the greater community; it's not just a bunch of philanthropic activities we're doing. Many NPHC members have sat thru countless interviews with interested persons and the reasons that people want to join our orgs are based on a whole lot more than just because they are Black...and of course we know that not everyone is Black. So the reasons people are attracted to us are many.

I said all this to say that your mother's "why?" may actually go deeper than you think.

[fantASTic]

Originally Posted by taurus0426

No what I mean is she's saying why in regards to why would I join a WHITE sorority. If I joined any other D4 she'd probably be miffed but be like "at least its NPHC" like that's reinforcing I'm still black I'm starting to think this may be a generation clash.

If I was in your situation, here is what I would do:

Firstly, I would find out exactly what your mother believes about the NPHC organization she's a part of. I mean like...why does she think it is a worthwhile organization? When she says things like service, sisterhood, life long commitment, et cetera...relate those things to the NPC. Once she sees that you can still get a meaningful experience out of the NPC, I bet she'll come around.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

If I was in your situation, here is what I would do:

Firstly, I would find out exactly what your mother believes about the NPHC organization she's a part of. I mean like...why does she think it is a worthwhile organization? When she says things like service, sisterhood, life long commitment, et cetera...relate those things to the NPC. Once she sees that you can still get a meaningful experience out of the NPC, I bet she'll come around.

Her mother isn't going to be satisfied until she shows her that she's done some research and knows a little more about the NPHC orgs and what they have to offer and I don't blame her. Right now it sounds like the poster doesn't know much about greek orgs overall, NPHC or otherwise. I would be upset too if my daughter didn't at least look into my organization to determine whether or not it's right for her.