Thank You Notes

[PeppyGPhiB]

While we're on the subject of Thank Yous, let me tell you about something that appalled me at a baby shower I attended a few years ago. At one point the hostess passed out envelopes to everyone and asked us to address it to ourselves, then announced that this was so the mom-to-be would have one less thing to do when writing out her Thank You notes. So, so wrong.

Last year, my family and I were all invited to a couple's wedding, and though we all purchased separate gifts and my brother and I don't live with our parents, the couple sent ONE Thank You card to all of us at the family address, which I also thought was rude.

I would feel TERRIBLE sending out Thank You notes even a few months after a wedding. By then, your wedding is old news to your guests; they deserve timely recognition that you received their gift. My good friends have followed a strategy that seems to work well: write the Thank You note as soon as you receive the gift, then mail out all the Thank You notes at the same time. This spaces out the writing so it's not overwhelming, and it ensures no one slips through the cracks. It gives you an excuse to open presents before the wedding, too ;-)

[ZTAngel]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

Last year, my family and I were all invited to a couple's wedding, and though we all purchased separate gifts and my brother and I don't live with our parents, the couple sent ONE Thank You card to all of us at the family address, which I also thought was rude.

That's so wrong. You send out a thank you card per gift regardless if the gift-givers live in the same household (or are the same family). Once again, that was laziness on behalf of the couple. It's the same as wedding invitations. You send one invitation per couple. If there are people 18 and over living in the household, they each get their own invitation.

Back when I was living with my best friend, a friend of ours got married and she sent one invitation to us. I think she did it because she's cheap but still.... The outer envelope read:

Ms. ZTAngel and Ms. Roommate

It was on the same line! We still have an ongoing joke that we're each other's significant other.