How NOT to be dismissed...

[nate2512]

Originally Posted by als463

Because I'm a sorority member and know very little about Fraternity recruitment...would someone mind explaining to me what someone SHOULD wear for Rush parties???

My boyfriend and I have talked about it (because he is looking to rush) and both of us are clueless. He is looking at schools in the North. He is mainly looking at Ivy League and Big 10 Universities. Any help would be great!

1.) How should you dress/ what should you wear?
2.) What should you avoid wearing at all costs?

3.) Should he talk about the great community service he's helped my sorority with or should he completely not talk about that at all?

4.) Should he talk about military service?

5.) Should he talk about honors awards and having a high GPA or will the guys look at him like someone who only cares about academics and can't just chill?

6.) What are some great topics to discuss and what is considered "taboo"?

I've read through the other threads and I'm learning a little more as I go-like the "Walking a PNM out"...we are trying to avoid being "walked out"...How do you know if they just aren't into you? My bf is very reserved-not snobbish-just pretty laid back....I was just wondering....any advice (from women or men) would be great!

I'll venture out and guess that he's probably somewhere around 23-25?

[als463]

Originally Posted by nate2512

I'll venture out and guess that he's probably somewhere around 23-25?

And you would be right...I know that PhiGam started a "Biggest Rush Mistakes" thread and it was GREAT but, it became too long when people started talking about discriminating or something...I just wanted a candid look at what should and should not be worn...what should and should not be said....

When he rushes he will probably be 25-26 (but, he served time overseas)...As a woman-I don't know much about what name brands you guys like to wear and what ones are considered stupid or lame. I noticed you guys talked about A&F and Hollister but, he owns a lot of Ralph Lauren and Chaps polos...He likes Tommy Hilfiger and Nautica tops, as well. Are Khakis okay (northern, mainly) and what kind of shoes???

Do guys look at "lables" the way some girls might? Would it be bad if he began talking to a girl at the rush events (if there are any there) and he mentioned his g/f was in a sorority-even if that NPC is not at his campus where he is now rushing??? Give me the good-bad and ugly-ANYONE can answer these...so, please feel free to discuss away!

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by als463

And you would be right...I know that PhiGam started a "Biggest Rush Mistakes" thread and it was GREAT but, it became too long when people started talking about discriminating or something...I just wanted a candid look at what should and should not be worn...what should and should not be said....

When he rushes he will probably be 25-26 (but, he served time overseas)...As a woman-I don't know much about what name brands you guys like to wear and what ones are considered stupid or lame. I noticed you guys talked about A&F and Hollister but, he owns a lot of Ralph Lauren and Chaps polos...He likes Tommy Hilfiger and Nautica tops, as well. Are Khakis okay (northern, mainly) and what kind of shoes???

Do guys look at "lables" the way some girls might? Would it be bad if he began talking to a girl at the rush events (if there are any there) and he mentioned his g/f was in a sorority-even if that NPC is not at his campus where he is now rushing??? Give me the good-bad and ugly-ANYONE can answer these...so, please feel free to discuss away!

Depends on region.

I won't comment further because we know what kind of talk it'll turn into.

[nate2512]

Yeah she has already said it is north.

The topic of dress is very vague, it depends on what kind of rush events he is going to and such things like that. You went to Penn St. so you should know better than us(the southern guys) as to what fraternities wear up there, I'm really not sure. And I sure can't tell you what kind of shoes because apparently boat shoes are not proper attire in the north. If there are girls there, he should show himself able to interact with girls and not act a complete ass, but on the other hand, he shouldn't devote the entire time to that either. But once again, different rush events call for different tactics.

I'll now step aside and hopefully the northern guys can tackle this one.

[GooniePDT49]

Originally Posted by nate2512

Yeah she has already said it is north.

The topic of dress is very vague, it depends on what kind of rush events he is going to and such things like that. You went to Penn St. so you should know better than us(the southern guys) as to what fraternities wear up there, I'm really not sure. And I sure can't tell you what kind of shoes because apparently boat shoes are not proper attire in the north. If there are girls there, he should show himself able to interact with girls and not act a complete ass, but on the other hand, he shouldn't devote the entire time to that either. But once again, different rush events call for different tactics.

I'll now step aside and hopefully the northern guys can tackle this one.

Just make sure he's not wear a plaad shirt, overalls, or a straw hat. I'd lose the chewing tobacco as well.

[magichat]

He can't go wrong with a solid colored polo tucked into some khakis and nice casual shoes (either sperrys or cole haans).

Also, tell him not to get too drunk, but not to abstain completely.

As far as things to talk about, let the brothers steer the conversation or he may come across as bragging.

[als463]

Even at PSU-I knew what the guys wore to class but, that doesn't help me with what they wore to rush. I know VERY little about it. I know how recruitment works for women-so, I'm used to that whol "structure" of things...

For rush, do you just stop by the house? When you talk about polos-can they be Nautica or Ralph Lauren? Some of these brands I have never heard of, so you'll have to excuse me. I am gonna' be honest and say I have no clue what "jorts" are either.....I'm guessing they are Jean-Shorts but, I'm not 100% sure.

Will age matter even if you have a great GPA and you're a very committed person? I joined my GLO for the same reason he is doing his-"sisterhood/ brotherhood" aspect and community service. He's not a bragger-so, you won't have to worry about that....Regardless of whether or not it's a North vs.South thing..I don't care-ANY advice from ANY person on here is great so, please feel free to add your 2 cents.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by magichat

He can't go wrong with a solid colored polo tucked into some khakis and nice casual shoes (either sperrys or cole haans).

Also, tell him not to get too drunk, but not to abstain completely.

As far as things to talk about, let the brothers steer the conversation or he may come across as bragging.

Solid advice regardless of region. A polo and khakis would be safe anywhere. I completely agree about how to toe the line about his accomplishments; tell the brothers when they ask.

[magichat]

Originally Posted by nate2512

boat shoes are not proper attire in the north.

Thats not entirely true, it depends on where in the north. Areas near the water tend to be perfectly fine for boat shoes.

[nate2512]

Originally Posted by magichat

Thats not entirely true, it depends on where in the north. Areas near the water tend to be perfectly fine for boat shoes.

hmm...thanks for the enlightening, its just most of the time when we get into to boat shoes, the northerns don't seem to wear them.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by nate2512

hmm...thanks for the enlightening, its just most of the time when we get into to boat shoes, the northerns don't seem to wear them.

LOL, I would rather see GLOs dress better than beer shirts, cut off shorts or flip flops!

Wear the letters and pins. Advertise your GLO first!

Why dress like slobs when we are supposed to be a step above others.

N-S-E-W, what difference does it make?

[magichat]

Originally Posted by nate2512

hmm...thanks for the enlightening, its just most of the time when we get into to boat shoes, the northerns don't seem to wear them.

Well, I guess maybe its because I am from coastal southern new england then. But then again, how we dress at home is vastly different then much of the rest of the region I live in.