Non participation in NPHC as a D9 member

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by grad

I am as a matter of fact, which is why I haven't gone where I know I will see her. I'm just still angry. You're right. 1)I'm LETTING her get to me but I haven't done anything to her have I? I'm making a choice. 2) I feel she LET this man get to her and did not control herself like she should have.
Instead of coming to MY house to do that crazyness, she could have done something else - anything - but what she did.

@Bolded starting with #2) That is too much judgement of a behavior you cannot control. NO ONE--NOT even her baby's daddy, will EVER understand her lack of control without medical treatment. And if you are not a licensed clinical psych evaluator--neither should you try to rationalize her actions... All you can do is actually act on your Sorority's programs and give assistance in the form of leaflets or pamphlets or call the crisis center hotline... (I am so wrong for that, I know ...) In fact, I have a EXCELLENT 1-800 number...

#1) I am happy you have CHOSEN NOT to act on your impulses. That is wonderful. You need to congratulate yourself by giving yourself a heart salutation and gift for your choice of resilience and basically keeping the faith for your enemies.

What would it take for you to move forward on this situation? Just asking? Don't forget if you need extra assistance, contact Ariafya. It is a safe-free-zone.

[grad]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

@Bolded starting with #2) That is too much judgement of a behavior you cannot control. NO ONE--NOT even her baby's daddy, will EVER understand her lack of control without medical treatment. And if you are not a licensed clinical psych evaluator--neither should you try to rationalize her actions... All you can do is actually act on your Sorority's programs and give assistance in the form of leaflets or pamphlets or call the crisis center hotline... (I am so wrong for that, I know ...) In fact, I have a EXCELLENT 1-800 number...

#1) I am happy you have CHOSEN NOT to act on your impulses. That is wonderful. You need to congratulate yourself by giving yourself a heart salutation and gift for your choice of resilience and basically keeping the faith for your enemies.

What would it take for you to move forward on this situation? Just asking?

LMAO at your post! What would it take for me to move on? Funny you should ask. Been thinking about this during this whole thread. It made me realize I do need to move on from this. So . . . . I think I'm gonna start by sharing the story with my closest soror. Knowing her personality, she'll probably LHAO! lol Then I will drag her with me to an NPHC event sometime this summer. . . She'll give me the emotional support I need while LMAO in the process b/c I know she will have jokes for my ears only!

Who says GC can't solve all your problems?

[ladygreek]

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.

LOL

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.

So who's the GCer?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.

I'm glad I didn't have to be the first naysayer.

What's more interesting than this BS story is which GC regular it could be. Idunno.

A 2 year member who really thinks that not attending NPHC events amounts to a hill of beans if you're not the designated NPHC rep for your chapter? Not buying it. I didn't read her rants about some love triangle but I saw someone mention fighting over a man. Yeah, right...blah.

[grad]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I'm glad I didn't have to be the first naysayer.

There's a first time for everything!

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

A 2 year member who really thinks that not attending NPHC events amounts to a hill of beans if you're not the designated NPHC rep for your chapter? Not buying it. I didn't read her rants about some love triangle but I saw someone mention fighting over a man. Yeah, right...blah.

Exactly! Hence the reason why I didn't want my "real" name associated with this post!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by grad

There's a first time for everything!

Says the sockpuppet!!

Originally Posted by grad

Exactly! Hence the reason why I didn't want my "real" name associated with this post!

You have been a member for 2 years but needed a thread to tell you where your priorities lie? mmmmmkay.

[grad]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

You have been a member for 2 years but needed a thread to tell you where your priorities lie? mmmmmkay.

Actually, I was just curious to know what everyone thought. I will do or not do what people suggest. I may or may not take it into consideration. That's my choice.

[grad]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.

You don't have to buy it LG, but it's true. Weird as it may sound lol
And like I mentioned earlier, this was ONE example so folks saw that it was more than just dealing with annoying people. This was about trespassing into MY home to harm ME. This had nothing to do with a man. This was now personal vendetta on me - I was not fighting for that man. She could have accomplished more by talking to me than by what she actually did. I do have issues with the other NPHC sororities due to the ethics, conduct of their memberS (note that the "s" makes it plural), like I state in my first post. I mean, in this particular example, wth was she thinking? Over a man? For real? I would have issues with my sorority too if I knew of more than one soror that did this type sh*t in her old age LOL This was ONE example of why I have issues with this particular sorority member, her sorors b/c they crazy too and HER sorority as a whole. Now, am I judging a sorority based on a few members? Maybe. But supporting their sorority would be pretty hypocritical of me right? I feel this way about the other 3 and a few of the fraternities might I also add.