Non participation in NPHC as a D9 member

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by grad

I agree 100%




No, it's nothing like this. Let me clarify exactly why I don't participate. Here's an example of what one member of another NPHC sorority did (before all this happened between us, I did not know her). I used to date a guy who used to date her. He was not cheating on her with me. They were over before I came into the picture. She didn't agree with that decision so one day she went to my home and slashed the tires of his car while he was visiting. WTH? What self respecting woman in her late 30's does that? Another incident occurred at my house another day where I had to call the police on this woman. This time, he was not there. I took it personal. This had nothing to do with him anymore. She's disrupting MY home, not his. I'm the type that believes if you are an intruder in my home I have the right to shoot your a** for trespassing. Why? Because it's my home and I have the right to defend myself. Obviously I didn't shoot her. Instead I called the police.

Fast-forward to today. If I see her I will give her the a** whooping I didn't give her back then for 1) disrespecting MY house 2) scaring the sh*t out of me in MY own home and 3) being the type of woman who does this crazy sh*t for a stupid man. I mean, come on, she should have known better than to go crazy for a stupid man who didn't want her (God knows we women will if we let ourselves!).

Needless to say, I believe one invites or rejects drama. I reject it. I cut my ties with this man I was dating b/c that was just too much drama for me LOL But now I have to deal with her at NPHC events. And I'm not supposed to whoop her a**? Not supposed to say anything to her at all? Oh, let me tell you I have plenty to say to her! It's been 2 years of self control and yes, I still harbor feelings about it. How could I not?

The reason why I don't go to NPHC events is because I'm actualy worried at how I'm gonna react when I see her and what will happen due to my reaction. I'm not afraid of her. But I'm big on image and the fact that I'm a walking talking billboard for my sorority. Plus if I react, everyone will wonder why. Now my business is out for ALL the greeks in D9 to discuss (and we all know how we do it!)

So what do I do instead? I purposely avoid the situation of being around her b/c I know how I can get LOL. So, this is just one example of why I avoid NPHC events - it's more than dealing with annoying people. Annoying I can handle - I do it all the time at work. But this type of thing is more serious than that. Or am I exaggerating?

Why did I already know that there was more to it than you were telling at first??? First off, you need to change the "I might whoop her a-- if I see her" attitude. I feel you but these days, you can quickly become a convict walking around with these thoughts in your head. If she's not worried about you, don't be worried about her. I know one thing, I wouldn't let anyone stop me from going places and doing things. It's not like you'd be going to events by yourself. You better not be my soror or else I might have to come and go to an NPHC event with you.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Why did I already know that there was more to it than you were telling at first???

I was wondering the SAME thang!!!

[grad]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

It's not like you'd be going to events by yourself. You better not be my soror or else I might have to come and go to an NPHC event with you.

You know RT, this thought never crossed my mind. I guess I imagine I would feel alone if I went b/c noone knows the situation. But I can now see my ghetto sorors getting down and whooping her a** wit me!

Seriously, you bring up a good point. I would probably have fun b/c I will be with my sorors and I know we always have fun no matter what.
Hmmmmm