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Originally Posted by Blondie93
I wouldn't trade my 20s for *anything.*
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Me either. I got married this past October, just shy of my 27th birthday. I had several friends who got married, and divorced, or are still unhappily married who got married before they were 25. In fact, I cant think of a single friend of mine who DID get married before 25, who is still married, happily.
My friend Melissa married her HS sweetheart at 21. They didnt make it a year. They didnt make it 6 months. He was a complete prick of a mama's boy anyway. (Told her she was a bad wife because she did things differently than his mom - they got into arguments about the proper way to fold towels.
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Jennifer also married at 21. She and Jon were friends of mine from the navy. She shipped out for a 6 month deployment 2 months after their wedding. By the time she had returned, he had been cheating on her, and so her reaction was turnabout was fair play. They tried to work things out for over a year, but he was dragging her on a string. They finally divorced last June, but SURPRISE, they are dating again now. Who knows what's up with them?
Sarah married at 22, 6 months after graduating college. She's still married, but she's not happy. Adam has dominated her life. In fact, for my bridal shower, my bridesmaids had all the women who wanted to, to write me a letter and seal it up and put on the envelope when the appropriate time was for me to open it. She and I had grown apart, didnt see each other as often as we used to. Her letter to me said "Open when you are lonely." I opened it about a month and a half ago, and it said something along the lines of "Call me, I miss you. Adam has dominated my life Adam has his friends and my friends are gone. Don't let your husband do the same to you that I've allowed Adam to do to me."
My husband was married once before. He married at 19. Within 3 months they weren't living together anymore, and for whatever reason, they didnt actually divorce until about 2 years later.
Luckily, none of these friends I mentioned above had kids....but I have some casual acquaintances from high school who didnt go to college, got married within 2 years of graduating high school, and have 2+ kids today. Do I envy them? Yeah right - not in the least. Thanks, I have a life of my own to live before I worry about feeding another mouth, thanks. I loved being able to go out with my friends whenever the heck I wanted. I loved being in school, and having spring break, and going on a cruise. I loved being able to drop whatever it was, and fly across the country to see an old navy friend's Chief Pinning ceremony, just because. There are too many things to hold you back once you settle down. Your 20s are not the time to do it. Yeah, I'm 27 and married now, which is earlier than some, or alot of people, but even if I wasn't I dont think it would have been the end of the world.
Live your life and have fun for you while you can. Screw what anybody else says or thinks.
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