I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I don't think I'm being dense, and I don't ask questions I don't already have the right answer to. No one said anyone hated anyone. Maybe I'm not that knowledgeable on this subject, but I refuse to let outsiders determine who I decide to have a love life with. I honestly think when you see a black guy with a white woman in a relationship, you don't give him the benefit of the doubt unless you know him on a personal level. I think at the first look of seeing an interracial couple that you don't know (a black man and a white woman) you automatically start having negative thoughts in your mind. Like "Why is he with her?" or "He's one of those guys who thinks white women are better." You seem to link the two together as a bad thing and because associated concepts are essentially linked together in a person's mind, a person would be faster to respond to a related pair of concepts and in your case a black man and a white woman. Personally, I think this is a form of self interest, and self interest often shores up implicit biases. It's basically to bolster our own status. We are predisposed to ascribe superior characteristics to the groups to which we belong, or in groups, and to exaggerate differences between our own groups and outsiders. I think your basic visual perceptions on interracial relationships are totally skewed.

ETA: You also seem to hold strong emotions with interracial relationships (black and white) and some implicit biases appear to be rooted in strong emotions. Deep within our subconscious, all of us harbor biases, but the problem arises when we act on them. This is also something we can overcome since this is all based on brain activity.

Wow, you read me like a book. Let me guess, you studied Psychology in undergrad? Once again you are showing that you seem to THINK you know something that you don't. I have already stated where I stand on the issue and I think I have shown that my true beliefs/feelings are contrary to what you have written in the above. From this point on I will not participate in any further conversation with you on this particular topic.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

AKA_Monet, expanding my knowledge is always of interest to me. So I'll read what you want me to read. I honstly don't think it's necessary to do so and I know I won't agree with it, but I'll read whatever it is you want me to read.

you've already put in your mind that you won't agree, so unfortunately you're not approaching the phenomenon with an open mind trying to learn. thus you're accepting wallowing in ignorance and cluelessness because you don't want to. you're looking at the world through naive, rose tinted glasses.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Which thread are you referring to in the news and views forum?

Here you go...

[neosoul]

everybody typed a dissertation

[teena]

Originally Posted by neosoul

everybody typed a dissertation

Monet had a nice cliff note in there somewhere. My self diagnosed ADD wouldnt allow me to read more than 4 sentences in each post.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Here you go...

I saw it. Thanks for that!

[southernelle25]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I think you gotta do what you gotta do to stay free and alive. There's no justice in this country.

Such might keep you alive, sure, free... not so much. And then the question becomes, is such life worth living? This is an issue blacks in America have had to struggle with for centuries and so will your children, should you have any.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

My mother says I borrow trouble - worrying about things before they happen - but I think about how to protect my future children. Things like not wanting them - especially boys - being out at night...not for fear of their safety in general, but for fear that the police will get them. I don't want to sit at home wondering if my child has been arrested.

So, don't let your "boys" be out at night. In my family, all children had to be in the house by a certain time. Once they are grown, well, there is nothing more you can do. If you don't believe in your ability to raise black boys into responsible black men who won't be arrested (or at least convicted), then maybe you shouldn't have any.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

Such might keep you alive, sure, free... not so much. And then the question becomes, is such life worth living?

Taking on the police as an individual leads to incarceration, physical assault or worse. Staying out of jail and taking on the police/system as part of a larger and more powerful force - AND perhaps undergoing intentional arrest to make a positive statement - wins battles. But, the war is still on. I'm interested in hearing your thoughts on what individuals should do when being wrongfully harassed by the police.

Originally Posted by southernelle25

So, don't let your boys be out at night. In my family, all children had to be in the house by a certain time. Once they are grown, well, there is nothing more you can do. If you don't believe in your ability to raise black boys into responsible black men who won't be arrested (or at least convicted), then maybe you shouldn't have any.

Mmm hostile. And, I fixed your comment for you. Anyway, I'll hope that you are, in fact, familiar with the severely disproportionate percentage of black men in jails and prisons. So, I can only assume you're just playing devil's advocate. I'm not concerned about my ability to guide my sons into responsible manhood, but thank you for sharing such delightful mockery. It will take you far on Greek Chat.

[TotallyWicked]

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