Titles

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Originally Posted by blakiceanjel

I understand what you're saying, but what if you are committed? I honestly think if someone is going to play around on you they will whether or not you have a title. A bad person might believe that if you don't have the title then you have no reason to be upset, but logical people know the difference.

My situation is a little different. He and I jumped into the relationship too fast, became bf and gf immediately. We were smitten with each other, but he got nervous with how fast everything was moving. He ended up doing something stupid (not cheating so much) and hurting me. We decided it would be better to lose the title and just date. Now we're closer than ever. We spend our whole weekends together, my family loves him (to them he's my bf), he lets me borrow his car, I even have some of my stuff stored in his storage room. But we don't have that title. It bothered me at first, but if he's my acting right I don't need it.

I know it might sound a little naive, but I've been in bad relationships before so I can tell the difference. I think (and I've told him this to which he replied "Maybe".. his version of yeeaaahhh lol) that he's afraid of messing up again. I've tried explaining that even if something bad happened now we'd still be hurt. He's just an over-thinker. lol

If you are committed and comfortable with your situation then, in my opinion, you shouldn't have any questions about the importance of a title. What else changed when you dropped the title? Why was that an important thing to do in your relationship? Based on reading the above it sounds like you are making excuses for him and putting words into his mouth. One thing I have learned is that men are NOT complicated like women are, so don't try to make it that way. Take their words and actions at face value because men rarely speak in code the way women do. If he said "maybe" he meant "maybe," you know?