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Originally Posted by Buttonz
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There are many PNM's who are told to take out piercings, cover tattoos, if their dress style is a little different to try to be more conservative for rush, etc. I know many of us do the same, take out our piercings, etc.
I'm hoping that most of us wouldn't say "O, she has a ________ piercing/tattoo/hair color etc, I can't be friends with her!" so why does it make it any different for rush?
Now, I am in school in the NE, so maybe it's because I have a different view on things, but I wouldn't want a girl to change who she was for rush if it wasn't who she really was.
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Maybe sometimes (perhaps more so at age 17, 18, 19 than later in life) people forget that "who you are" -- core personality, values, character, etc. -- is one thing, while the fluctuation of fashion and fads -- tats, piercings, hair color, etc. -- can be quite another: something fleeting, maybe .
I don't feel that suggesting taking out a piercing for a few days is like asking someone to give up their deepest values. Frankly, if someone is really wondering whether a piercing, tat, hair color, etc. might "hurt" her, I think it could be sensible to give it up / cover it up for a few days. Why add to the stress of recruitment by having a constant nagging thought, "is this okay?" Make it easier on yourself!
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