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Originally Posted by Buttonz
I guess maybe I didn't explain myself clear enough in my first post....
I understand everything that has been said and I agree with it. However...telling a sister or a PNM to take it out JUST for rush and put it back in after to me is pointless.
If Suzy PMN doesn't want chapter ABC because Sister Jane has a nose ring. Jane takes it out for rush and puts it back in after. If PNM Suzy she gets a bid and accepts to ABC and then sees Jane with a nose ring, what is to stop her from dropping? And if she doesn't, who says she would have not wanted ABC based on that?
Same thing on the other side. If DEF doesn't want PNM Patty because Patty has a nose ring lets say. PNM Debbie has one but took it out for rush and puts it back in after. Now, we all know what I'm about to say isn't supposed to happen but it does. What stops DEF from making Debbie so miserable that she drops?
The way I look at it, if it has to be taken out for rush, it should have to be taken out. Period.
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I actually disagree. When we interview, rush, have important meetings or appointments, we want to put our best foot forward. I know that when I audition, I get a manicure/pedi, get my eyebrows done, do a full makeup, and wear put-together outfits. That isn't to say that I am a slob all the other times, but when I want to make a good impression, I want people to see me at my best. It's also about wearing what is appropriate for an event.
In my opinion, things like peircings and tatoos MAY distract people when you first meet them. What is the saying, that a person only has a few minutes to make a first impression? What is the first thing you want people to notice when you meet them? A nice smile, a strong handshake, a warm "hello".
It is human to base one's first impression on what one sees the first time they meet someone. If your personal decorations are distracting, tame them down. Once you are a member, or get the job, and know what the environment is like, you can adjust yourself. Simply scale back and be a little more conservative. It won't kill you, and it isn't selling yourself out.
It's not that you are hiding yourself at rush; it's that you are wearing what is appropriate. Here is an example outside of jewelry - If everyone is wearing heels and you walk in with black converse sneakers, you are screaming that you don't care about conformity of any kind. Let's face it - we have to conform everyday in many situations. You don't have to be a follower, but there is a level of decorum and respect in every social situation.
There will be many events in which you (as a member) would need to dress up, and if you demonstrate that you aren't willing to dress conservatively at your very first event, then that tells people that you don't care. Which is different than "being yourself" or "being a non-conformist".
If you have 7 ear piercings, why not wear just one or two studs? If you have green hair, wear it in a low-key style. You can show people shades of you without screaming "I AM DIFFERENT".
That's my opinion and I am from the northeast.
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