Are your dating standards too high or too low?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Ronnie B

Yeah, I heard of all that, but that could mean anything. She made it seem like she wants a dude who doesn't really have a past. We all got that. I wasn't trying to be negative, I was just being realistic. She'll be single for a long time.

We all got issues, including her.

I didn't think you were trying to be negative. I thought you have low expectations. Some people need drama to feel special and alive.

Everyone has a past of some sort because the past comes before the present and the future will make this present the past. And everyone has concerns of some sort. That doesn't translate to "having a past" (in the automatically negative sense of the word) and "having issues" (in the dramatic sense of the word).

[Ronnie B]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I didn't think you were trying to be negative. I thought you have low expectations. Some people need drama to feel special and alive.

Everyone has a past of some sort because the past comes before the present and the future will make this present the past. And everyone has concerns of some sort. That doesn't translate to "having a past" (in the automatically negative sense of the word) and "having issues" (in the dramatic sense of the word).

I'm feelin' what you're sayin' here, but I don't feel my standards are high or low. I have to set them to fit me. What I'm tryin' to say is I'm not perfect, so how can I say I want this in a girl and that in a girl. I was a player in my past. Still am light weight. My girl has two kids, one from me and one with some other dude before me. When I first met her, I wasn't down with the kid at first. I had to ask myself how can I hold that against her if I got a past myself? That's all I'm sayin'. I just think it's a trip when a dude or how ol' girl said she wants this and that, but she ain't lookin' at the common denominator. Her. But I feel what you're sayin' though.