Going through changes

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

I was once asked would I cut my hair.


I wonder what she's doing nowadays....

It's funny you brought that up... one of my ex's always said he 'preferred' my hair shorter... I liked having longer hair. We are no longer together.

Someone I used to talk to quite a bit dated a guy for several years before they got married... and even though she liked her hair long, she would always cut it to a certain length b/c her husband liked her hair short.

The guy was no picture of perfection either. If I were her, I would have told her I preferred him to not have a beer belly.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

It's funny you brought that up... one of my ex's always said he 'preferred' my hair shorter... I liked having longer hair. We are no longer together.

Someone I used to talk to quite a bit dated a guy for several years before they got married... and even though she liked her hair long, she would always cut it to a certain length b/c her husband liked her hair short.

The guy was no picture of perfection either. If I were her, I would have told her I preferred him to not have a beer belly.

LOL...just wrong!!!

But I agree..when you have something you are used to it's hard to have someone request that you do somethign that would drastically change who you are...

BTW...the young lady in question was a weave wearer...why should I cut some perfectly nice dreds that took years for me to grown for someone that could take her hair out in 5 mins?

[Munchkin03]

It obviously depends on what the thing is, and how far along in the relationship we are. If I was in a serious relationship with a recovering addict, and I really wanted to move to the next step, and to do so meant that I had to stop drinking, I probably would.

If some buster I had only been seeing for a few weeks was all, "I'm insecure and jealous with a small penis and I don't think you should go out with your girlfriends on the weekends," I'd tell him to take a long walk on a short pier.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

LOL...just wrong!!!

But I agree..when you have something you are used to it's hard to have someone request that you do somethign that would drastically change who you are...

BTW...the young lady in question was a weave wearer...why should I cut some perfectly nice dreds that took years for me to grown for someone that could take her hair out in 5 mins?

I may be jokin'... but I ain't lyin'!!! LOL

[Exxtra1908]

It depends on what they are asking you to change. Changes that are for the better only make us stronger. However, it is not fair to want to change something about a person that you knew about when you met them. If it is something that you do not like, then you need to examine whether you should be with that person. Balance and compromise are key. I want a friend who will help me change things for the better but will also accept me for who I am.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by DolphinChicaDDD

Maybe its just because all the women in my office are going through their "changes" but I totally thought this thread was going to be about menopause.

Carry on.

seriously. i was about to bust out with ch-ch-changes!

btw if my mother, at the ripe age of 41, calls me one more FREAKING time about "flashing," i will go off.

[SWTXBelle]

Here's the deal - I want someone who accepts me as I am, but will be supportive of me improving and growing. What I want is to be the best me I can be, and I need friends and family who want the same.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by tld221

seriously. i was about to bust out with ch-ch-changes!

btw if my mother, at the ripe age of 41, calls me one more FREAKING time about "flashing," i will go off.

You will understand when you get there! Most of the women I work with are "this age" and when you see someone reach for the fan, you know what's going on!