No matter what we all say, at some point, we make changes to ourselves when we are in a permenent relationship, i.e. marriage. Be it communication styles, small changes in our looks, the way we eat, drink and be merry and our friendships. Be it the "bad reasons" to change, massive plastic surgery and we pay to look like Barbie and he or she drops us the minute we accomplish the goal, etc.
I changed the type of man I dated before I got married. I usually dated the athletic wonders, special dark chocolate guys. I married a goof-ball nerd into his "gizmos". The nerds learn "things" faster... At any rate, I had to change my "self-destructive" behavior because it affect my physical health and I was grossly unhappy. When I choose to pursue my nerdy husband, he made me laugh and very completely happy. And nerd does clean up nicely... Whereas, po' broke phi broke kneegrow never cleans up no matter what place you put them...
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"I'm watching with a new service that translates 'stupid-to-English'" ~ @Shoq of ShoqValue.com 1 of my Tweeple
"Yo soy una mujer negra" ~Zoe Saldana
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