deactivate?

[baci]

I may be a little late to this thread, but I just read it all. I happen to think that "aabby757" said it best. Her response was very mature and seemingly true to heart.

As you age, many of these friends may no longer be in your life. (both your sorority sisters and your non-Greek friends) Life takes many turns and people go on various paths and at different paces. Trust me when I tell you so much will happen to you in your 20's and 30's. As you hit your 40's, you will see things so differently.

You can take as much as you want or as little as you want from your sorority now and later. That is your choice. The good thing is if you remain, the option is always there for you. If you depledge, it is gone forever! Think about it.

The money is not that large of an amount. It may seem like it now, but it really isn't. It is a small price to pay.

Think about trying to initiate a new program/idea in your sorority if you stay. Something that can help you or others with the feelings you have now. Maybe you can be a liaison to others who may be having the same issues that you are. You can create a group that meets to talk etc. Why not? This is "life" and not everything is perfect, including being a sorority sister. It is perfectly normal to have the feelings you are having and I am sure some other people have them or have had them. It is actually silly to be afraid to talk about it or admit it. This is life.

You could also consider creating an event that allows a sister to be paired with a non-member of her choice. Maybe it could be a competition type event at the house or a cookie party or even a study hall each week with a dessert after. It doesn't really matter what it is. Give something a chance and put out some effort. At least in your heart you will know you did something positive for yourself and others.

One hundred women are alot of women to get to know and enjoy being around.
It is perfectly fine if you don't know them all. Take the extra time to say hello and ask someone you don't know how they are doing. Just try and make someone smile. It may make you feel good inside as well. You are almost finished at your university. It goes so fast and so does your time in your sorority. Think hard and if you follow your heart you will make the best decision.

Good Luck.

[Matsimela]

I'm sure that if you dig far enough you will find out the particulars of how to deactivate, get alum status, whatever you choose to do. But i would suggest trying to stick it out or doing something to improve the way you feel about the situation at hand.