Advice to rushers: re: legacies

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

SO...are all legacies equal or not? Just because a chapter had a bad experience with one legacy doesn't mean they will with the next since these would be individual women who have nothing in common other than a family member who was a sister of that org. Now your analogy would be apt if you you got to go back in time and have a chance to rethink your original choice to offer a bid to the trouble legacy.

All legacies are equal.
However...we had a great-great niece of a Founder come through...she got extra attention. Can you blame us??
And let's say the chapter is familiar with a PNM's mama, grandmama, step mama, sister or whatever...then I would think they might be more inclined to retain the PNM an extra round...there's more of a personal link there.
But all that is promised is an invitation to the second round (the first invitation-round, as another poster defined).

[breathesgelatin]

There was a situation in my chapter where a legacy rushed. She filled out her recruitment registration form and did not list our sorority as legacy chapter, but listed two others for which she was.

We later got a RIF from her mother's friend showing that she was a multiple legacy.

We figured out pretty quickly that she did not want to be a member of our chapter. I guess she thought that listing her legacy chapters meant she would somehow mean she automatically become a member of one of them? It didn't make sense since she was already a legacy to a majority of the chapters on campus (5 at that time).

Needless to say, she did not join our chapter. I did wonder what her mom (a Pi Phi) thought, or if she was even aware of the whole situation.

I think a LOT of moms are kept in the dark about their daughters' wishes.