Advice to rushers: re: legacies

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If you go to a restaurant and get a bad meal every time, after 3 or 4 times you're probably not going back to that restaurant.

SO...are all legacies equal or not? Just because a chapter had a bad experience with one legacy doesn't mean they will with the next since these would be individual women who have nothing in common other than a family member who was a sister of that org. Now your analogy would be apt if you you got to go back in time and have a chance to rethink your original choice to offer a bid to the trouble legacy.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

SO...are all legacies equal or not? Just because a chapter had a bad experience with one legacy doesn't mean they will with the next since these would be individual women who have nothing in common other than a family member who was a sister of that org. Now your analogy would be apt if you you got to go back in time and have a chance to rethink your original choice to offer a bid to the trouble legacy.

I wasn't saying that I thought they were right, but that their mindset might have been "all the legacies we've pledged have sucked so far, so therefore ALL legacies must suck and we don't want any more." I guess a better analogy would be that if every time you went out on a date with a different guy from XYZ fraternity and had a rotten time, you might not be inclined to date any more XYZs. (Remember we are talking about 18-22 year olds here.)

But AnchorAlumna clarified that wasn't the case.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

SO...are all legacies equal or not? Just because a chapter had a bad experience with one legacy doesn't mean they will with the next since these would be individual women who have nothing in common other than a family member who was a sister of that org. Now your analogy would be apt if you you got to go back in time and have a chance to rethink your original choice to offer a bid to the trouble legacy.

All legacies are equal.
However...we had a great-great niece of a Founder come through...she got extra attention. Can you blame us??
And let's say the chapter is familiar with a PNM's mama, grandmama, step mama, sister or whatever...then I would think they might be more inclined to retain the PNM an extra round...there's more of a personal link there.
But all that is promised is an invitation to the second round (the first invitation-round, as another poster defined).

[breathesgelatin]

There was a situation in my chapter where a legacy rushed. She filled out her recruitment registration form and did not list our sorority as legacy chapter, but listed two others for which she was.

We later got a RIF from her mother's friend showing that she was a multiple legacy.

We figured out pretty quickly that she did not want to be a member of our chapter. I guess she thought that listing her legacy chapters meant she would somehow mean she automatically become a member of one of them? It didn't make sense since she was already a legacy to a majority of the chapters on campus (5 at that time).

Needless to say, she did not join our chapter. I did wonder what her mom (a Pi Phi) thought, or if she was even aware of the whole situation.

I think a LOT of moms are kept in the dark about their daughters' wishes.