deactivate?

[lauralaylin]

What helped me feel more connected to my chapter was getting involved. I decided to attend all events, took a position, and forced myself to do things because I thought it might help me. And it really did. While I never had the same connection to the other sisters that they seemed to have for each other, I still became much closer to the other sisters. I also developed a wonderful connection to my organization as a whole. I really feel like it was worth sticking through it. I love being an alum and am very active now and have made a ton of close friendships with sisters not from my chapter.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by lauralaylin

What helped me feel more connected to my chapter was getting involved. I decided to attend all events, took a position, and forced myself to do things because I thought it might help me. And it really did. While I never had the same connection to the other sisters that they seemed to have for each other, I still became much closer to the other sisters. I also developed a wonderful connection to my organization as a whole. I really feel like it was worth sticking through it. I love being an alum and am very active now and have made a ton of close friendships with sisters not from my chapter.

I beleive you said it all.

One only gets out of what they put into any group whether now or after graduation.

One may be board or does not get along with certain members but there is the real world out there that will be the same way.

For the original poster, You and only You can make the decission.

Be a bigger part of something or not. Graduation is a major part of life, would you like to have Sisters from all over that you could talk with or a friend or two or none?

[aabby757]

It sounds like you may be lonely, and forgive me for saying this, maybe a bit depressed. If your best friends are abroad, have money angst, etc that is enough to be a bit depressed I'd say.

As a old broad here is my perspective. It sounds like you are an upperclassman. I say stick it out. If nothing else for the time you may want to fall back on it. You never know if you move, change cities, etc you have an automatic link to women who have something in common with you.

As for the money, in the scheme of things, it's not *that* money, especially if you're graduating soon.

Yes, becoming more involved too is great.

But I'll tell you, when I was a senior, I was burnt out. I didn't know any of the pledges, etc. I wasn't a letter wearer only, I was just done. Kinda like living at the beach for the summer. I loved it until the day before I left and then I wanted to get the heck home!

If you aren't an involved alumnae that's ok too. But you don't have that option if you quit.

Don't let your angst/mood/friends being away make you end/sever/permentantely end something that perhaps would do you some good in the future.

You will be out of college way more years than you are in so who knows having your sorority to fall back on may be a great thing.

Don't quit is my two cents.

[ree-Xi]

It sounds like you have already made up your mind, and are looking for validation that it's the right decision. I am not trying to be harsh.

I am not sure of your org's rules, but if they say that you cannot take early alumnae status, then perhaps you should leave. From what I can see, you are not showing any allegiance to your sisterhood, nor any friendship to the individual sisters outside your little circle.

Let me tell you that if you do deactivate, you will likely not be traveling in the same daily/weekly paths that your sisters will. It will be very difficult to keep the intensity of your friendships with a group of sisters, once you are out of the loop.

I am going to disagree with many here and not encourage you to stay, if what you enjoy most are the external ornaments of membership. Open up the space for a girl who really wants the whole shebang.

It's no fun - for you or anyone else - having someone play if they aren't a willing participant. Time to make a grown up decision, and be able to live with it.

Good luck with whatever you choose.