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Originally Posted by pinklion10
One girl did this and then asked us what time our recruitment event the next day was, because she wanted to go. "I really like you guys," she said, but she'd denied a bid from us the week before. I had to explain to her that we liked her too, but she found a house that she felt she fit in with better, that she wasn't eligible to go to a recruitment event if she'd already been recruited.
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During informal, a PNM can theoretically receive as many bids as there are chapters on your campus. Just because she was "recruited" by Phi Mu doesn't mean she can't take another chapter's bid if they offer her one. Unless by "recruited" you meant you offered her a bid, she signed something, and then she depledged. She can be offered a bid, decline, and be eligible for a bid from any other chapter. She can not be offered a bid, accept it, depledge and be eligible for a bid from another chapter.
The first PNM that took a bid from another chapter was just trying to think of a white lie. She didn't want to say to your faces, "I want to hold out for XYZ" or, "Phi Mu is my 2nd or 3rd choice."
And the other girl who has been offered a bid several times and mooches during recruitment events, talk to her and explain that she can spend time with sisters outside of recruitment events if she "just likes to spend time with you guys". Tell her that recruitment events are for women genuinely interested in joining the chapter. Tell her that if she cares about the women that she "likes to spend time with", she will care about the negative effect she is having on your chapter's recruitment and stop coming to recruitment events.
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