Recruitment annoyance

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by pinklion10

Who knows. My guess would be that she would like to spend time with the girls in my house (because a lot of us are friends with her), but... who knows.

We have a girl that has denied a bid from us several times, has not pledged any other house, but keeps coming to our events anyway - she said she wants to spend time with us. And since the events are open, there's not much we can do about her.

Yes, there is. Tell her to stop coming to RECRUITMENT events. They are for PNMs. If she has already declined a bid (or several - ???) she is no longer a "P" anything, she shouldn't be coming around to rush events where you want to focus your time and attention on women who have serious interest in your house. Didn't this already get covered in another thread with you?

Consider the damage she can do while at your events. What if she starts chatting with other rushees and mentions how she's been bid (several times - ??) but didn't take it. What kind of impression will that make on others? And how does it look that you all just keep letting her come around anyway, even to what are essentially closed events (I realize you're having "open houses", but again, they are for RUSH, not just for anyone to stop by and have a snack and a chat).

Why would anyone think they need to go through the bother of pledging, paying dues, going to meetings, serving on committees, doing philanthropy, etc., when you all will just let people "who want to hang out with you" do just that, enjoy your chapter and your sisterhood without taking on ANY of the responsibility of real membership?

Sometimes being "selective" will increase the perception that your chapter must be "worth" joining. Cut off the moochers and let other women who really want to be a part of your house know you're serious about building your sisterhood with active members.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Yes, there is. Tell her to stop coming to RECRUITMENT events. They are for PNMs. If she has already declined a bid (or several - ???) she is no longer a "P" anything, she shouldn't be coming around to rush events where you want to focus your time and attention on women who have serious interest in your house. Didn't this already get covered in another thread with you?

Yes it did. And I'll say again what I said there. DO NOT HAVE OPEN COB EVENTS. THEY SHOULD BE INVITE ONLY. Do not post them on your website, facebook, myspace or any other place where randoms can find out about them, and don't allow anyone in who has not been invited!

If you are being encouraged to have open COB events by an advisor, regional/national rush chair or anyone else higher up, tell them exactly what you've told us...I wager they'll tell you to stop. What's happening now is, plain and simple, making your chapter look ridiculous.

[pinklion10]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Yes, there is. Tell her to stop coming to RECRUITMENT events. They are for PNMs. If she has already declined a bid (or several - ???) she is no longer a "P" anything, she shouldn't be coming around to rush events where you want to focus your time and attention on women who have serious interest in your house. Didn't this already get covered in another thread with you?

Consider the damage she can do while at your events. What if she starts chatting with other rushees and mentions how she's been bid (several times - ??) but didn't take it. What kind of impression will that make on others? And how does it look that you all just keep letting her come around anyway, even to what are essentially closed events (I realize you're having "open houses", but again, they are for RUSH, not just for anyone to stop by and have a snack and a chat).

Why would anyone think they need to go through the bother of pledging, paying dues, going to meetings, serving on committees, doing philanthropy, etc., when you all will just let people "who want to hang out with you" do just that, enjoy your chapter and your sisterhood without taking on ANY of the responsibility of real membership?

Sometimes being "selective" will increase the perception that your chapter must be "worth" joining. Cut off the moochers and let other women who really want to be a part of your house know you're serious about building your sisterhood with active members.

Sorry, I didn't clarify something. I invited her to this event earlier in the week when the P still applied to her. She said it sounded fun and she would probably go, but then pledged the other house the next day.

Also, I did suggested to the membership and PR committees that we close recruitment events and make them invite-only, but my suggestion was shot down. APPARENTLY because we just HAVE to get our name out there, and I even told membership that we looked desperate with the methods that we're using. It was good advice, but even the president agreed with them, so there's little else I can do.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by pinklion10

Also, I did suggested to the membership and PR committees that we close recruitment events and make them invite-only, but my suggestion was shot down. APPARENTLY because we just HAVE to get our name out there, and I even told membership that we looked desperate with the methods that we're using. It was good advice, but even the president agreed with them, so there's little else I can do.

Show them this thread.

Do some simple math - over a year, calculate # of girls that actually accepted bids divided by the number of girls that showed up to open events. It might wake them up to how much effort you all are exerting and how little you're getting in return.

Inviting everyone with an ovary to a COB event is NOT "getting your name out there" - there is a difference between recruitment and PR. Getting your name out is wearing letters, putting ads in the paper, meeting new people, putting on philanthropies.