Biggest Rush Mistakes at any institution

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by PhiGam

I have yet to meet a girl who is offended by the term "sorostitute." It is a funny, endearing term and they understand that.
Obviously if a girl is able to take care of the financial burden ($2000+ per semester) of being greek then she is never going to have to be a prostitute. Its just a harmless term, another thing that a lot of people will never understand.

Originally Posted by SECdomination

I consider it a harmless term, too. Plenty of people say it and no one actually takes it seriously. I really don't see why some women on here are uptight about it. ( unless someone was actually trying to be rude )

Then those girls are either playing along to curry favor (which is sad) or they haven't been raised well with self-confidence.

You say you respect women, but will you tolerate someone calling your future wife (or mother or sister or daughter) any derivative of "prostitute"?

One day when your daughter comes home from high school and says "Hey, guess what, Daddy, all the boys on the football team call me a cheer-whore, isn't that funny and cute?", will you tell her that yes, sweetie, that's a term of endearment, you should roll with it and let the boys call you that adorable, demeaning term. Or, will you tell her that she is better than that and worth more than that and she shouldn't accept that kind of diminution for someone else's entertainment?

[SWTXBelle]

Co-sign. Just because you haven't been told that some women of your acquaintance find it insulting doesn't mean they don't - they may well hate it but not have the courage to confront you. Especially if they are trying to impress you with how "cool" they are.

As to not understanding why some find it demeaning, might I direct your attention to several previous posts which make it clear why a term equating Greek women with prostitutes is not funny, endearing, or cute? It's not that anyone thinks you are literally saying they are prostitutes - it's the whole "reducing women to sexual objects" thing that is offensive.

eta - To see if it is an age thing, I asked my 18 year old if she would offended by the term - yes, she would. Admittedly, she has been raised by me, so it's perhaps a little skewed, but let me state that she has absolutely no problem in letting me know when she disagrees with me!

Perhaps you really haven't ever come across women who are offended by it. I guess it could happen. But you are now aware that there are indeed educated, competent Greek women who find it to be insulting. Why would you run the risk of inadvertently offending them by continuing to use the term?

And to get back on topic, shouldn't a rushee be careful about saying anything that might be seen as offensive (I leave it to the "frat" men to define what that means)?

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Then those girls are either playing along to curry favor (which is sad) or they haven't been raised well with self-confidence.

Yeah, that's it. Girls who joke around about the term "sorostitute" are all devoid of self respect, self-confidence, and they were all raised poorly.

Are you kidding me?

You say you respect women, but will you tolerate someone calling your future wife (or mother or sister or daughter) any derivative of "prostitute"?

....because your immediate family and wife are exactly like a bunch of college aged people who are comfortable with using some crude humor around each other in friendly settings.

It's almost as if some of you think guys just call random girls they don't know a derivative of "prostitute".

One day when your daughter comes home from high school and says "Hey, guess what, Daddy, all the boys on the football team call me a cheer-whore, isn't that funny and cute?", will you tell her that yes, sweetie, that's a term of endearment, you should roll with it and let the boys call you that adorable, demeaning term. Or, will you tell her that she is better than that and worth more than that and she shouldn't accept that kind of diminution for someone else's entertainment?

Does this need to be done again?

.......because a random high school football player calling your daughter a whore is obviously the EXACT same situation as you joking around with a group of PERFECTLY GOOD FRIENDS who understand that the term "sorostitute" is a joke, used in jest.