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Originally Posted by UGAalum94
Of course I think you ought to judge anyone you want to judge and be offended by anything that offends you. But based on the number of my former students who have used the term in my presence and their varying attitudes about women, I don't think it's going to be a valid and reliable indicator that a person who uses the term hates or wants to abuse women.
That is all I ever wanted to say.
Personally, I don't think a derogatory word based on a bad stereotype of a small subsection of a group, like "sorostitute," is ever going to equate to a racial slur that denigrates a whole group, but to each her own, I suppose.
ETA: if you said it to my mother, she would just think you were kind of an idiot, but she wouldn't see it as a reflection on her or assume than you showed a disregard for anyone other than sorority women. Showing disregard for sorority women is a problem if you are one AND you think the person using the term is implying something about your character, rather than making fun of the stereotype.
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Would you recommend that a woman going through sorority recruitment use "sorostitute"? Even if she was trying to make fun or light of the stereotype? Most - if not all - of the ladies I have the pleasure of of being acquainted with, would find it's use offense. As do the gentlemen. It is crass and common. Which is why if a man wants a bid to a fraternity, he should never use it.
To be clear, I am directing this toward fraternity rush. Even an active - who might use the term "in private" or with his friends - may find it offense when someone he does not know feels free to use it around him. This is similar to profanity. So if he wants a bid, he needs to be certain he does not offend any one member. Remember that in some chapters/fraternities it may only take one no vote to keep someone from receiving a bid.
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Originally Posted by UGAalum94
I don't think you should ever talk about anyone's mother or grandmother during fraternity rush. It would be a mistake.
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I wanted to address this separately. I don't think there is anything wrong with discussing your Mother or Grandmother as long as the context is appropeate. A simple example may be "My Mother is an XYZ." when asked if anyone in your family belongs to a GLO. How a gentleman shows respect to women - and especially to his kin - is something that a lot of fraternities want to know. Especially before they consider extending him a bid. (Been there, heard it discussed.)
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