My Live Spring Rush Story

[OHNOITSJESS]

It is with a sad and bitter heart that i tell you....
i got no bids....

For snow white.... they have a rep for being the "barbie dolls" [literally, fake tan, perfect hair, slightly snobby... ect.] on campus. i def. saw that when i went there sunday. they girls are sweet, but i honestly think they cared more about what was on the outside, the fact that i won't.... CAN'T be a barbie doll.... [ unless its an indian one lol. ] but atleast they had the decency to call and tell me [ they told me a timespan in which they would call too so...]

i am debating going through formal rush or not..... will it end in the same heartbreak because i look different than everybody else? i'm def. not ugly, my beauty is not what you've seen down here.... its def unconventional.....
and i'll be a junior....

i really don't know what to do.... and since its a possibility that i could FR, i will not post a key on here.... if you want one, you can PM.... i will also not post my school.... if you would like to know, PM for that too.....

if you have addvice abou me going through FR or not... please let me know... PM me... since you should know what school i am at.... that kinda changes things....

[SWTXBelle]

I am so sad to hear that, Jess.

[lindz0722]

Sorry to hear the bad news, Jess. Whatever you decide for formal recruitment, please don't assume that the reason you didn't get a bid was because of your skin tone and looks. I don't know your campus, but I do know that getting a bid through informal recruitment can often be largely a matter of "who knows who". You might have better luck in formal recruitment just because you have a better chance to meet more people.

[OHNOITSJESS]

btw. i don't think Snow whites are snobs or evil or racist.... personally fom my interaction with them they seem like a bunch of sweet girls.... i have a few friends there... so i have nothing against them.... i just think the greek system here as a whole doesn't show the [albeit small] diversity here....

[OHNOITSJESS]

and i don't hate greek life.... obviously if i want to go through FR... and my boyfriend is in a NIC fraternity.

[twinkle555]

Jess, Im sorry to hear about your experience with informal. I went to an informal recruitment event 2 years ago and didnt receive a bid. I went through again during formal (as a junior) and received a bid.

I would encourage you to really think about it for yourself, and if juniors receiving bids isnt unheard of at your school, I would go for it. good luck in your endeavors and keep us posted!

[OHNOITSJESS]

this will prob. be my last post....
maybe forever....
I found out [obviously] that all the GLO's handed out bids [it took a lot of sleuthing and a month later... its all confirmed.... i still had hope... for a while....]
being handed this rejection.... [even tho i knew i wasn't accepted into a GLO] makes everything seem so fresh... and painful... it makes me feel like no one wants me [again], and that i'll never fit in or find my niche anywhere....

and due to recent events that have occured.....
i am highly doubting i'll go through Formal...
i have little intrest after seeing how the sororities on campus interact with each other, and [mosty] the fraternities... it actually makes me saddened because i am a girl that wanted to go through rush after seeing what they did.... [not to go on with details.]

[KSUViolet06]

I'm sorry again. That's probably a tough spot to be in.

Try not to let this keep you from enjoying the rest of college.

Also, regarding whatever went on that makes you not want to go through recruitment, try not to let it make you become bitter toward fraternity and sorority members.

Best of luck with the rest of school and life.

[baci]

This really saddens me and it happens alot more than I would admit.

I wish you all the best!

[tld221]

it sounds like some ish went down and i wanna know what happened!

[OHNOITSJESS]

Well as I was considering going through FR [since i only met half of the orgs on campus and have heard some of the others are really great], but I got a mentorship/scholarship opportunity that I am wasn’t going to pass up, and you can't do FR [it happens at the same times]

Then, as I was considering going through Spring Rush and building up my contacts at various houses, my dear boyfriend [we are serious....] tells me he's 'taking alternate routes' with his fraternity [I don't want to disclose too much, his fraternity chapter president is on GC]. But he is saving up for grad school, taking 19 hours and taking an ancient language as his minor, so the “alternate routes” are the only way he can be affiliated ith his org.

Since we do plan to have a future together, and he is not getting any support from his family for going to gradate school/seminary, I have to get a job as well [I was planning on it anyways] but I won't be able to save up enough money, work, spend time with XYZ and do new member events, and get into my upper level engineering classes at the same time while having a life.

So basically, I can't pursue a sorority during my collegiate career.

I was working on starting a local among female engineers and affiliating with a national engineering org eventually.... but our Pan-Hellenic is causing so many problems with it I don't think it can happen, at least not before I graduate....

So the main point is I still desire sisterhood, friendship and a support network, along with something I can put my time into. Basically I think I’ll be pursuing a non-collegiate org and see where to go from there.... [i.e.: Beta Sigma Phi]

Am I going about this the right way?

Anyone have helpful advice?

[KSUViolet06]

Help me understand this. You need to get a job to help support your bf? Do you guys live together and share bills or something?

Originally Posted by OHNOITSJESS

I was working on starting a local among female engineers and affiliating with a national engineering org eventually.... but our Pan-Hellenic is causing so many problems with it I don't think it can happen, at least not before I graduate....

How are they causing problems with it? Your campus' Panhellenic can't stop you from starting your own local.

[FSUZeta]

and a national engineering sorority for women would likely not fall under the umbrella of the collegiate panhellenic council anyway. it's a different type of greek organization.

why don't you contact the national office of the engineering sorority directly and see what it takes to establish a chapter at your school?

honestly, it sounds like you are going to be way busy, with classes, work, boyfriend. i think you made the practical choice to not pursue npc membership.
congratulations on your scholarship!

[AlwaysSAI]

The only thing I would say is:

You shouldn't let your boyfriend's situation affect what you do in college. It is not your job to support him for grad school, bills, whatever. You are not his wife and it is up to him to take care of his own business.

I know you and your boyfriend are serious right now, but take it from someone that's been there--things change. And, if you let this job-so-I-can-help-my-bf thing stop you from pursuing sorority membership or anything else you will always regret it--especially if you two don't get married in the end.

I've been there. I was with a guy for three years and we were talking about marriage and then one day he didn't want me anymore.

But, at the end of the day, you have to be happy with the choice you made.