A junior transfer recruitment story!!!

[Tippiechick]

Why would you not have the guts to skip a house, pnm? I rushed as a sophomore and would have dropped any house that didn't feel like one I could be with.

It's far better to drop a house you KNOW deep down you'll never feel right in instead of keeping it just so you won't be dropped from recruitment. ANY sorority is NOT better than THE sorority for you.

It's like telling someone who is a size 12/14 (me) to go ahead and buy that designer sample dress. It might not FIT, but I could do my best in trying to FORCE it to fit. But, it'll just never be for me.

Same thing. It's about finding YOUR home, not just A home.

If you try and join a group you don't really click with, you'll most likely be one of the pledge class casualties we all are familiar with. Be smarter than that.

[PhoenixAzul]

Oh cool, a Columbus rush story! I always loved walking around in the greek part of OSU when I had to come to town for anything, the houses are so pretty (and there's usually available parking!). The campus always terrifies me though, because Otterbein is soooo tiny in comparison! Congratulations on your new sisterhood

[PNM08]

I wouldn't have the guts because I'm a big sissy.
I haven't been through recruitment yet, so I don't actually know.
To me, being in a sorority is a big deal, so I'd try to preserve as many chapters as I could.
But I've so much on how you should go even if you don't want to or they'd it'd get around to the other girls.
That's why I wouldn't have the guts.

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Why would you not have the guts to skip a house, pnm? I rushed as a sophomore and would have dropped any house that didn't feel like one I could be with.

It's far better to drop a house you KNOW deep down you'll never feel right in instead of keeping it just so you won't be dropped from recruitment. ANY sorority is NOT better than THE sorority for you.

It's like telling someone who is a size 12/14 (me) to go ahead and buy that designer sample dress. It might not FIT, but I could do my best in trying to FORCE it to fit. But, it'll just never be for me.

Same thing. It's about finding YOUR home, not just A home.

If you try and join a group you don't really click with, you'll most likely be one of the pledge class casualties we all are familiar with. Be smarter than that.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by PNM08

I wouldn't have the guts because I'm a big sissy.
I haven't been through recruitment yet, so I don't actually know.
To me, being in a sorority is a big deal, so I'd try to preserve as many chapters as I could.
But I've so much on how you should go even if you don't want to or they'd it'd get around to the other girls.
That's why I wouldn't have the guts.

Keep that attitude, PNM08...it's called maximizing your options. Panhellenic recommends that you do that so you have the lowest chance of ending up empty handed on Bid Day. As for Tippiechik...would you really drop a group because a sister "blinked too much?" That's pretty superficial...the poor girl may have a tic! If it was deeper than what the OP wrote, then you can't blame PNM08 for being confused that a Junior Transfer Student would have enough guts to be that picky!

[FSUZeta]

congratulations to richi and tri delta. loved the new member photo-you all look so happy and proud!

and i love, love , love the beautiful room that you all are in-is that your den at the tri delta house(the interior designer in me wants to know)? the tri delta crest is very striking above the fireplace.

[SthrnZeta]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

and i love, love , love the beautiful room that you all are in-is that your den at the tri delta house(the interior designer in me wants to know)? the tri delta crest is very striking above the fireplace.

I agree, I love all the woodwork! Very sohpisticated and unique - I could just see the ZTA crest made up like that. *tear*

Congrats Richi! You've joined a truly wonderful sisterhood in Tri-Delta!

[Hopeful_Bubbles]

Another happy Tri-Delta ending! Congrats and welcome to the sisterhood!!

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Keep that attitude, PNM08...it's called maximizing your options. Panhellenic recommends that you do that so you have the lowest chance of ending up empty handed on Bid Day. As for Tippiechik...would you really drop a group because a sister "blinked too much?" That's pretty superficial...the poor girl may have a tic! If it was deeper than what the OP wrote, then you can't blame PNM08 for being confused that a Junior Transfer Student would have enough guts to be that picky!

Do you seriously think the op dropped a house SOLELY b/c of the blinking?

Yeah, tell her to maximize her options. Then, when she gets a house she really doesn't want and ends up dropping as a pledge, I'm sure you'll be around to console her...

It's called being honest with people. We need to be telling pnms that it's ok to drop houses they are positive they don't want. GC rush addicts blow so much sunshine up pnms butts that they go in thinking rush is all rainbows and puppies.

I would rather see someone empty handed on bid day and still have a chance of joining a group later through cob than tell her to maximize and have her join a group she doesn't want. She'll then either 1) drop after the group spends a ton of time trying to retain her or 2) Stay in and regret her choice.

Sure people join groups they are not sure about. And, yes... There ARE people who give it their best and end up liking that house. But, if someone KNOWS deep down a group isn't for them, why would you want to tell them to still consider them?

Is it "Panhellenic" to give such advice? No. It's honest. Plain and simple. We all see these girls come back if they get THAT house wanting to know if they can drop and rerush. And, then GC scolds her for not being sisterly AFTER we've told her to maximize and give everyone a fair shot! We give her the bad news of having to wait to rerush and tell her that groups look down on people who pledge and drop.

So, suck a big one if you don't like my advice. I don't care -- I'm actually telling the truth that most here don't have the guts or desire to do.

[Scully]

Originally Posted by Scully

Yay for a story with AEPhi! And yay for rushing as a Junior! We have something in common I love me some Coach!

Originally Posted by richi

Rho Gamma and Code name Reveal: Coach- Alpha Epsilon Phi

Yes, a total coincidence Congratulations to you and Tri Delta! I'm so happy you found a great home.

[violetpretty]

Some campus Panhellenics require PNMs to attend every party on their schedules or the PNM is dropped from recruitment (unless the PNM's absence is excused). Some campus Panhellenics will guarantee a PNM a bid (to a chapter where she attended preference) if she ranks all chapters whose preference parties she attended, provided that the PNM also attended every party on her schedule in previous rounds or had an excused absence if need be.

I agree with AOII Angel that it's a good idea to "maximize your options" by attending every party on your schedule and by keeping an open mind, looking for the best in all chapters, etc. However, it is also important to be honest with yourself and evaluate where you truly think you fit. Tippie, I agree with you that it is horrible advice to tell a PNM to rank all three chapters after pref if she would only be happy in one or two. I think PNM08 was just shocked that richi decided to skip a chapter because her school might have harsher consequences for skipping a party.

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Some campus Panhellenics will guarantee a PNM a bid (to a chapter where she attended preference) if she ranks all chapters whose preference parties she attended, provided that the PNM also attended every party on her schedule in previous rounds or had an excused absence if need.

What?!?!? Really, is that true??

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

What?!?!? Really, is that true??

Well, it's really guaranteed matching after preference if you rank all your choices, not "sign up for recruitment and we'll make sure you get a bid somewhere" because of course, a PNM can get cross-released before preference. It's an incentive to discourage suiciding, to match more women who "played fair".

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

Woooohoooo! Another Alpha Gam story!!! May your story end in red, buff & green.

I'm rooting for Fendi.

Originally Posted by richi

Fendi- Alpha Gamma Delta

Another one.

[BuckeyeTriDelta]

WOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

Welcome to Tri Delta and double welcome to the Nu Chapter (Delta Delta Delta 2004 Chapter of the Year if I can brag a little bit)! I am so happy for you!


FSUZeta: The room the picture was taken in is called the Pine Room and yes it is in the house.

[TriDPrincess]

Congratulations!! I just love a story with a Tri-Delt ending Plus Anna Sui makes great perfume. Enjoy your new member period and delta <3!