LB's/Dating/Frat Hoes

[Phrozen1ne]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You know gentlemen, the same thing can be said from a woman's perspective, except as "collegiate society" would have it, the comments are perceived harsher coming from fraternity men...

What I mean is, should not the decision to "get with" a man be solely the woman's even if it is just physical? And that attraction is purely one of "experimentation"? Most young ladies haven't a clue on how to have a relationship nor be in one until their 30's, much less their 40's.

Moreover, the point is "lasciviousness" or "polyamorous". An astute woman would know how to play on that on pubescent young men. But a woman mindful of her sexual wiles and be discrete in regards as to how to best express them. If she choses to beguile her seduction, he or she will know it and would choose not to share...

Most young ladies really probably enjoy male friendship that happens to go too far and gets out of control. Some young ladies allow themselves to become doormats to these gentlemen. Yet, some young women delude themselves into believing that they are actually in love with the fraternity lifestyle. Lastly, some young women just do not know any better.

How does a man uplift a hurt sistah without context? Consistency in response. Support for primary goals in college--to graduate and obtain a career. So many of our young women are broken. You see them on Oprah, Springer and Maury. You see the very complaints made here on GC somewhere. Rarely do you see supportive statements made for one another.

Have we bought this "battle of sexes" lock, stock and barrel?

I refuse to think those things anymore... As a womanist, I cannot. Men have hurt and are hurting, just as much as women. Which makes this problem a lack of the Spirit...

Love one another... Put a little love in your heart... God is Love... There is Love in the rain--God resides there...

Gentlemen, I watch ESPN Sportcenter because my husband loves it... The news gets deferred when it is on. Yes, I know who Chris, Lee and Kirk are...

Interesting take on this. I do realize a woman is capable of flipping the scrip. Suprisingly I never thought of the fact that some may not know how to be in a relationship. Don't get wrong I am not dismissing or trying to say it is wrong to have casual sex, but when you spread yourself around a group of men or women at a given period.... in this day and age is a dangerous thing.

Originally Posted by jon1856

I do agree with your thoughts.
I never thought of or saw anyone "using" letters to get some "action"
Thus to me, this sort activity can and does happen in any kind of social or living environment or group.

True, true.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Phrozen1ne

Interesting take on this. I do realize a woman is capable of flipping the scrip. Suprisingly I never thought of the fact that some may not know how to be in a relationship. Don't get wrong I am not dismissing or trying to say it is wrong to have casual sex, but when you spread yourself around a group of men or women at a given period.... in this day and age is a dangerous thing.

It is about role modeling. Just like a young boy cannot really become a MAN unless he has a man teach him how to be one, same goes for a young girl who cannot become a WOMAN who loves and trusts a man in a relationship if she does not see her parents (or step parents) who are lovers...

How would a woman know truly that "experimenting" with every Thomas, Richard and Harrold does not help her own personal psyche. Besides, men travel and swing in groups all the time, go from one sorority sister to another, sometimes in differing sororities or not... And some men play these same women against each other--as an experiment... Some of these same women say turnabout is fair play... I didn't say I agree with that logic, but that is what folks say.

And danger does not fit into the game when folks are playing it...

I think many young women just get caught up from one guy to the next--a merry go-round--and they figure it out when it is too late, after they are pregnant, or have a STD, or raped. Some are sold on the fairytale fantasy read to them by their mothers. Do you think Snow White and Cinderella were ever upgraded?

Hayle, I just had to burst the bubble of a 4 year old this past holiday season, telling her these Walt Disney fantasy fairytales are not real... I think I made her cry... Moreover, I hurt when I asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up, and she said "a princess-mommy". WTF a "princess-mommy"?

The advertisers sell these "princess outfits", with the shoes, etc. They even have the "Cheetah Girls" with plastic rings accessories!!!

So when you fellas are so ready to discount a young woman who has lost her integrity, remember, she probably did start off like my little 4 year old friend with full indoctrination... Better than any illegal pledging and hazing period any of the D4 could muster up...

[Phrozen1ne]

I work with 6th, 7th, and 8th children and one day some of the teachers decided to split of the boys and girls to talk about sexual health after seeing a movie on HIV which I feel to this day the movie, not the topic, wasn't age appropiate. I am a firm believer that sex education in the schools needs to be revamped now and after carefully answering any questions the boys had after the film in regards to their body and sexual behavior one thing became clear, that children believe having multiple sexual partners at one given time is the norm. I wasn't suprised due to all the things their minds become polluted with from media influence to interactions with family and friends. Not to mention that one of there 7th grade classmates was pregnant at the time.

I am now working with the school to bring the parents and the department of public health into this so they can recieve some type of health education since the science teacher has yet to introduce subject of puberty to 8th graders (something should have gotten in 5th grade). You are right it starts in the home and with parents.