Communication - Page 2

ziasha07 · #16 12-30-2007, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol

ETA: It depends. Now, if he was doing it because he was "bored"...that's another story.

Lmao. You're so funny.

James · #17 12-30-2007, 01:18 PM

What is DTMFA?

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Originally Posted by fantASTic

That's not a benefit, and she's not doing it for you. She's training him so that when she steals him, he'll be a nicer person to her than he is to you.

DTMFA.

Benzgirl · #18 12-30-2007, 01:50 PM

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=DTMFA

James · #19 12-30-2007, 01:54 PM

Oh! Thank you lol.

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Originally Posted by Benzgirl

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=DTMFA

ziasha07 · #20 12-30-2007, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Benzgirl

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=DTMFA

LMAO... I might have to use that!

cheerfulgreek · #21 12-30-2007, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Benzgirl

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=DTMFA

This sounds about as true as FUBAR to describe a guy.

When Doves Cry · #22 12-30-2007, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Get a new boyfriend who doesn't need some woman to counsel him on a regular. Preferably a grown man who has his own sense.

That woman needs to find her own man or a great hobby. Or both. Anything that keeps her occupied so she is no longer making herself your man's second girlfriend.

Well I guess I never noticed because he's so much better than my last bf who was (and still is apparently) a complete idiot when it came to relationships.

James · #23 12-30-2007, 11:35 PM

Its always a comparison issue. Better than your last may still not mean "good" on an objective scale. Thats a general comment by the way not an observation of your situation.

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Originally Posted by When Doves Cry

Well I guess I never noticed because he's so much better than my last bf who was (and still is apparently) a complete idiot when it came to relationships.

DSTCHAOS · #24 01-01-2008, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by When Doves Cry

Well I guess I never noticed because he's so much better than my last bf who was (and still is apparently) a complete idiot when it came to relationships.

So the ex set the bar real low and you're content with a guy who is only 1" above that bar.

Okay. Good luck to you.

arizona13 · #25 01-01-2008, 01:06 AM

Infamous12 · #26 01-03-2008, 01:29 PM

If the gf doesn't know about you and you don't know about her, there could be a problem.

I have several very close guy friends that I talk to regularly, they've known me for years and we call each other brother and sister. My boyfriend has met them and knows them all. He also has similar persons in his life, whom I've met and/or heard about. Do I trust him? Totally. Does he trust me? Yes. Is it cool to text, yeah....in moderation.

HOWEVER, if the texting were to interfere with our relationship (read: texting said person while at dinner with me, running to the phone just to chat while with me, etc. or vice versa) that lead me/him to believe that something not-so-kosher is going on.

When you say, texts regularly, does that mean - all day? Once a day? Once a week?

nikki1920 · #27 01-03-2008, 01:52 PM

I need more back story.

I mean, what are you texting to each other? If you were his gf, would you want those texts to be shown to you, would you be ok reading them? If not, there is your answer.

How long has the girlfriend been around?

and finally, if you feel guilty about it, then stop.

1908Revelations · #28 01-03-2008, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Infamous12

If the gf doesn't know about you and you don't know about her, there could be a problem.

I have several very close guy friends that I talk to regularly, they've known me for years and we call each other brother and sister.

When you say, texts regularly, does that mean - all day? Once a day? Once a week?

I agree with Infamous.

However, he is the one in the relationship so my question is does he not see a problem with it? I am not saying that you should sneak around with him or anyone else, but all you are doing is conversing with a friend, so there is nothing to worry about. If he does not see a problem with it you shouldn't either.

If I were the girlfriend I would be ticked, but that is not your position so chill out.

ziasha07 · #29 01-03-2008, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Infamous12

If the gf doesn't know about you and you don't know about her, there could be a problem.

I have several very close guy friends that I talk to regularly, they've known me for years and we call each other brother and sister. My boyfriend has met them and knows them all. He also has similar persons in his life, whom I've met and/or heard about. Do I trust him? Totally. Does he trust me? Yes. Is it cool to text, yeah....in moderation.

HOWEVER, if the texting were to interfere with our relationship (read: texting said person while at dinner with me, running to the phone just to chat while with me, etc. or vice versa) that lead me/him to believe that something not-so-kosher is going on.

When you say, texts regularly, does that mean - all day? Once a day? Once a week?

I know about her, basic information, but I don't know if she knows about me. When I say regularly, I mean everyday. Some days only 3 or 4 other days 50 - 80, maybe more.

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Originally Posted by nikki1920

I need more back story.

I mean, what are you texting to each other? If you were his gf, would you want those texts to be shown to you, would you be ok reading them? If not, there is your answer.

How long has the girlfriend been around?

and finally, if you feel guilty about it, then stop.

Mostly random stuff. Different topics for different days. I wouldn't mind if she read, I stand by everything I say. Most of the conversations are jovial but there have been a few she might find questionable.

She's been with him for 2 or so years now.