I lost my son KAP Jr.

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Ok, well, I am just going to have to continue to believe you were genuine in your OP, because I just can't fathom otherwise. Those of us who have lost babies know there's nothing harder to get over and my heart truly ached for you (and particularly the mom) when I read your post. So I'm just going to try to stay away from any of these threads because I really don't think I could handle finding out that this may in any way be a ploy for attention or something. That would be the most unforgivable thing I can think of. So I'll keep my delusion, if that's what it is, and continue to think good thoughts for the mom, especially, if there is one out there who is dealing with that deepest of pain and loss.

Having lost two myself, this is my perspective. I better not find out that the OP is some ploy for attention 'cause that shyt ain't funny

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by mccoyred

Having lost two myself, this is my perspective. I better not find out that the OP is some ploy for attention 'cause that shyt ain't funny

No it's not.

I had a good friend that once we both graduated from college and moved from the Lou, we lost contact. Then one day she called me to update me on her "life." She said she was married and had four kids. During the conversation she would sometimes interrupt it and say something to the kids or her husband. However, I never heard their voices in the background.

Then a couple of years later, she called me to say she had lost her husband and kids in a house fire--she was the only one who survived. I asked my mother about is (she was friends with this soror's mother) and she said the mother never mentioned that to her.

Then a few years later she called to say she had had a brain tumor, but the surgery had cured her.

Her last call--about ten years ago--was that she was living in FL with her new husband who was an Arab and filthy rich, but he was cheating on her and she was so hurt.

She was in real estate and a soror I knew worked with her. I finally asked her about all of this and she told me none of it was true.

So I learned that there are people out there who have a great need for sympathetic attention.

[KAPital PHINUst]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

No it's not.

...So I learned that there are people out there who have a great need for sympathetic attention.

Then I must also be lying to the Nupes in my chapter, who know the story from start to finish and met the lady personally.

I find it ironic that the same person who was compelled to confirm my membership in Kappa wouldn't think to confirm my story with other NUPES I shared it with, particularly ones in my chapter.

[RedVelvet]

This is just too sad for words.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Then I must also be lying to the Nupes in my chapter, who know the story from start to finish and met the lady personally.

I find it ironic that the same person who was compelled to confirm my membership in Kappa wouldn't think to confirm my story with other NUPES I shared it with, particularly ones in my chapter.

Your chapter is not the most credible source considering they initiated you.

[KAPital PHINUst]

To those who have supported me, I continue to thank you.

To those who say I am lying: After being told I was responsible for the baby's death by a cousin of hers, HOW DARE YOU accuse me of lying, especially considering the news was directed to my fellow Nupes and not at any of you! That is very cruel of you to even think that. Bottom line, it is NOT your place to accuse me of anything, because the news was not addressed to you. Some of you are clearly out of line and totally out of order!!

Shame on you!!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

To those who have supported me, I continue to thank you.

To those who say I am lying: After being told I was responsible for the baby's death by a cousin of hers, HOW DARE YOU accuse me of lying!! That is very cruel of you to even think that.

Shame on you!!

Because you have lied before. And all we know is what YOU tell us. Don't forget how suspicious everyone was on PP when you broke the "story."

I am going to chalk all of this up to your Asperger Syndrome. You even said yourself it is what causes your behavior.

That brings up another point. As a person with AS why would you even consider bringing a child into the world? There is a genetic disposition especially connected to the father.

[KAPital PHINUst]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Because you have lied before *edited for brevity*

LG, you are in the KAPPA forum responding to posts addressed to KAPPAS!! You are in NO position to accuse any brother of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity of anything, especially since the thread wasn't directed to you to begin with.

That brings up another point. As a person with AS why would you even consider bringing a child into the world? There is a genetic disposition especially connected to the father.

I won't even dignify that with an answer, especially considering how incredibly pompous and arrogant that sounded

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

That brings up another point. As a person with AS why would you even consider bringing a child into the world? There is a genetic disposition especially connected to the father.

I'm curious about your source for that ladygreek. Not that I'm challenging you -- it just is more specific than anything I've seen. I know it seems clear that there are genetic components to AS, and I know that AS is more commonly diagnosed in males. But I haven't seen any research specifically linking AS to the father's side genetically.

I will agree with RM, though -- I think the question is out of line. People risk passing along genetic predispositions all the time -- why suggest that men with AS shouldn't even "consider" having kids? It's not like AS is a terminal illness or debilitating birth defect. As the father of an Asperger's kid, I can assure you that I think the world is better off because he's in it, and had we known before he was born that he would have AS, it wouldn't have made any difference, except that we would have learned more about it sooner. Yes, he faces some challenges that most other kids don't have to deal with, but he brings some wonderful gifts and perspectives that most other kids don't as well.

Perhaps someone with AS would consider bring a child into the world because they know that it's not the end of the world to have AS. Besides, dad will know how it feels and can help the kid learn what he needs to know.