Need Advice- Awkward Smoking Situation

[GeekyPenguin]

Maybe you could mention something to the mom that your husband or someone else in the family has asthma or a really sensitive nose, and that you love having Marsha over to play but you've noticed that now that it is colder outside she's smelling like smoke. You're concerned that your husband (or imaginary asthma person) would have a negative reaction, and you were wondering if as a smoker she had any suggestions or ideas for how to keep the smell off of Marsha. If she says she doesn't, then ask if it would be okay if Marsha wore "special clothes" to play at your house so the smoke was less of an issue and then you could Febreze her other clothes.

Her teacher or someone should really be saying something to the mom about the smoke smell.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

Her teacher or someone should really be saying something to the mom about the smoke smell.

That was my exact thought. How close are you and your husband to Marsha's parents? If you're not very close with them and they've been smoking for a long time, they might be offended by you approaching them and (if they're sensitive enough) might not let Marsha come over to play any more, which isn't what you want. Do the two girls go to the same school? If they do, your best bet would be to ask the teacher to say something to the parents and be as neutral as possible about this.

[Phimuteach]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

Do the two girls go to the same school? If they do, your best bet would be to ask the teacher to say something to the parents and be as neutral as possible about this.

Chances are, the parents would get offended if the teacher were to say something as well. It's not the teacher's job to settle other people's social problems. If the parents are possibly on drugs, chances are the teacher has a lot more to worry about than smoky clothes.

ETA: I don't mean to sound harsh, but if someone contacted me to handle a problem they had with another parent outside of school, I wouldn't be too receptive. If it's a problem at school, the teacher will handle it.

[LeslieAGD]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

Maybe you could mention something to the mom that your husband or someone else in the family has asthma or a really sensitive nose, and that you love having Marsha over to play but you've noticed that now that it is colder outside she's smelling like smoke. You're concerned that your husband (or imaginary asthma person) would have a negative reaction, and you were wondering if as a smoker she had any suggestions or ideas for how to keep the smell off of Marsha. If she says she doesn't, then ask if it would be okay if Marsha wore "special clothes" to play at your house so the smoke was less of an issue and then you could Febreze her other clothes.

Her teacher or someone should really be saying something to the mom about the smoke smell.

This was my thought, too. I would tell the mother that someone in the family is allergic to the smoke smell and had a reaction last time Marsha was over.