Military Spouses, Parents and Families

[SthrnZeta]

Well, I have an update on the Christmas plans... he wants to exchange gifts before he leaves to go traveling with his family for Christmas. I am a total snoop and when he left his ebay SN up on my computer, I had to see what he was buying (plus he told me my gift came from ebay) and I saw what he's getting me for Christmas - a Coach purse I've been eyeing. Still, a very nice and thoughtful gift, not a ring, but still very cool. AND we ended up buying a townhouse/condo and we close next month right before he leaves. Sooo... my point is that we've definitely made a huge commitment and he continues to make comments about our future when he returns (we'll have two incomes, our next house we'll use the VA, etc.) so I'm not too worried now. He doesn't seem to like the fact that the listing agent for the house assumes we're engaged though... So yeah, I'd still like to get engaged before he leaves but I get the feeling this deployment may be a test for me. Any thoughts??

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

AND we ended up buying a townhouse/condo and we close next month right before he leaves. Any thoughts??

You BOTH are signing on the loan?

[LPIDelta]

Amanda--yes, I would say you are cynical. And I usually am too. I was engaged twice to military men before I met the man that is now my husband--and getting engaged did nothing to ensure that our relationship remained strong. It takes work and effort, and in the end me wanting it didn't make things stick. I've come to realize that the military doesn't make people cheat or give up on relationships--the people do.

SthrnZeta--make sure you get a POA (power of attorney) before he leaves, especially if you're getting a house together. Obviously getting a house together is a big sign of a commitment, so you want to make sure that you are protected in case anything happens.

An update from my world--the list of things that-would-only-happen-while-he's-gone continues to grow. Someone hit my car a few weeks ago. I'm fine but it is really making me appreciate how great my spouse is, because he would have taken care of everything and even driven me to get my car when its done.