I want to become closer friends, but I don't want them to ask me for some a$$

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

There's two people I know who has joined my circle recently (like a couple of months ago). They seem really cool, and I would like to get to know both of them better. They're pleasant/fun to be around and seem to be trustworthy...eventhough I have trust issues. So, that's big compliment coming from me. However, I'm 90% sure that both of them like me more than a friend. There's couple of reasons why I don't want to date or hook up with either of them. 1. As I mentioned earlier, I'm just not that into messing around with people within the same group of friends. 2. We are sexually incompatable.

I've been acting hot/cold around these two people. I would go from showering them with attention to pretty much ignoring them. I don't like doing that but I don't want them to get the wrong idea. If one of them asks me out, and I reject them, I'm scared it will stir a lot of drama...especially with one person. Even if I say "yes", one person will get left out, then there could be drama between them! I'm shocked there isn't any already.

BTW, I've had a horrible experience with a certain guy five years ago. Same situation. He actually accused me of being a tease, and made my life miserable. I don't want something like this to repeat!

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How do you communicate that you would like to be good friends, but you don't "love them like that" (and not hurt their feelings)?

Dionysus, I've never been in a situation like yours, but you should go with your first instinct. If they get mad about it and you never hear from them again, then you don't need them in your circle of friends anyway.

[AKA_Monet]

Di-

Are you choosing a mate for life or are you still having fun? If you are choosing a mate for life, then you based on your values and what is commensurate with each of their values, then you may have to choose. If you are still having fun, then either one of two things will happen, both will be together with you or the choice gets made by each of them. If I was in your situation, I would be about making my own choices and decisions and living with the consequences...

NEVER let me hear someone accuse you of YOUR DECISIONS!!! That past thought it could hurt you by labeling you. Can you be defined?

[tld221]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Who said she was talking about guys?