Wedding planning

[APhi Sailorgirl]

Ok I am bumping this because I know that GC will hopefully give me some better advice than what I'm finding on theknot.com.

Here's the deal, my fiance and I have picked a location and just did a walkthrough last night. We love the place. It works well for all of our guests and it's a great price. Oh and they had two dates for the month we want. Plus we get the whole lower level of the place for the whole day. The hospitality/wedding coordinator lady has been great to work with so far. She answered all of our questions and concerns last night and was very upfront with details and how the events will go plus her involvement.

The only nagging thing in the back of my mind is that these other brides on theknot are totally bashing this lady and the hotels she coordinates for (it's a group of 3). They say she is hard to reach, sent contracts late and had moved weddings to different rooms to accomodate other events.

I don't know if I'm just lucky so far, if they were just bridezillas, or what. Or am I just crazy and should just worry about my situation only?

[AlphaFrog]

I wouldn't put much stock in theknot, or any other place on the internet. Heck, it might be a good idea to print some of those comments out and address them with her. There are always two sides to every story, and the truth usually lies somewhere in the middle. Ask her directly what her policies are on moving weddings/events, sending contracts, and etc. If you haven't signed a contract, maybe even put a clause in about how soon phone calls, etc need to be returned.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by APhi Sailorgirl

The only nagging thing in the back of my mind is that these other brides on theknot are totally bashing this lady and the hotels she coordinates for (it's a group of 3). They say she is hard to reach, sent contracts late and had moved weddings to different rooms to accomodate other events.

I don't know if I'm just lucky so far, if they were just bridezillas, or what. Or am I just crazy and should just worry about my situation only?

As with most things on internet message boards, you have to take those things with a grain of salt.

I'd say just worry about yourself and your wedding and don't be too concerned with what these people say. For all you know, they could have been total bitches who gave this woman a really hard time.

I would also suggest getting all of this woman's policies and every contract or thing you sign in writing (it's standard to do so anyway).

[Cardinal026]

I think as long as you do have a contract and keep everything in writing, and also save all e-mails, make notes after phone conversations, etc, you should be fine.

Plus, I find a majority of the women on theknot to be unnecessarily nasty. You'd think they'd be the happiest forum on the internet, basking in wedding bliss - doesn't appear to be that way in most of their threads.

I think a big part of some knotties and vendors is their attitude - if you go in with one, you'll get one right back. Be your charming self to this woman, and you'll get a lot more in return.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Cardinal026

Plus, I find a majority of the women on theknot to be unnecessarily nasty. You'd think they'd be the happiest forum on the internet, basking in wedding bliss - doesn't appear to be that way in most of their threads.

I lurked on TheKnot message boards a few times, but didn't post (I'm not getting married, just a Maid of Honor looking for bridesmaid dress ideas) and some of those women are nuts. No offense to the GC brides-to-be who post there who I'm sure are completely normal.

I distinctly remember reading a post there telling a bride to be careful what she posted on her wedding website because there have been issues with some The Knot brides screwing with other bride's plans!

She went on to say that there was once a bride on the sitewho was jealous of another bride for booking the cake baker she wanted for her own cake (who was apparently booked solid). So the psycho bride went to the other bride's website, found the bakers store address, Googled the phone #, [B]called the bakery pretending to be this other womanand CANCELLED her cake order so she could book hers!

That is totally insane.

Not to mention the other crazies who post things like:

"OMG I'm sooo mad at my Maid of Honor for not being able to come to my bridal shower!! I mean, like, who cares if her grandmother broke a hip and is having surgery this weekend! This is my big day and it is sooo much more important than her little family drama!!"

[Lady Pi Phi]

The people on The Knot are insane!!

I too am the MOH for my friend who is getting married next year, and I peruse the wedding message boards, looking at dresses and ideas and to generally help her out. Most of the time is surf weddingbells.ca and canadianbride.com. The ladies on thse message boards are warm and friendly. The "ladies" on The Knot are seriously derranged and I can't believe anyone is marrying them. Plus I hate the way their message board is laid out. I find it really hard to read.