Pledge Shouldn't Drop

[fantASTic]

If it really is that he doesn't want to take the money because of honor, how about saying it's a dues scholarship from the chapter? That way, instead of you paying for his mistake, he was chosen to receive a scholarship. He never has to admit that it's because otherwise he would have had to drop.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

If it really is that he doesn't want to take the money because of honor, how about saying it's a dues scholarship from the chapter? That way, instead of you paying for his mistake, he was chosen to receive a scholarship.

Umm....giving someone a "scholarship" because they messed up and got a $400 speeding ticket????? This kid brought this on himself and does not deserve it. A scholarship from the chapter should be given to a member who is facing financial hardship that is not their own doing (i.e. family tragedy). This would set a very dangerous precedent. The next time someone got a ticket, or gambled their money away and couldn't pay the fees, they would expect a "scholarship" to help them out.

To the OP: While it's sad that you might be losing a potentially good member, you can't force him to find the money to stay. Again, he brought this on himself. It's not your responsibility to help him out of this jam. He can always come back and pledge next time. If he really wants to be in YOUR fraternity, he will return to your chapter. If you're worried about other groups taking him away, that should tell you something: that he's probably not 100% sure he should be joining your organization to begin with.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

Umm....giving someone a "scholarship" because they messed up and got a $400 speeding ticket????? This kid brought this on himself and does not deserve it. A scholarship from the chapter should be given to a member who is facing financial hardship that is not their own doing (i.e. family tragedy). This would set a very dangerous precedent. The next time someone got a ticket, or gambled their money away and couldn't pay the fees, they would expect a "scholarship" to help them out.

To the OP: While it's sad that you might be losing a potentially good member, you can't force him to find the money to stay. Again, he brought this on himself. It's not your responsibility to help him out of this jam. He can always come back and pledge next time. If he really wants to be in YOUR fraternity, he will return to your chapter. If you're worried about other groups taking him away, that should tell you something: that he's probably not 100% sure he should be joining your organization to begin with.

Agree 100%. He needs to take responsibility for his own mistakes. He screwed up. Pretty big screw up, if it's a $400 ticket.

You can be there for him, but he needs to clean up his own mess. Things in life have consequences. Getting a $400 speeding ticket has consequences. As his big, aren't you supposed to help him mature and grow as an individual?