pledge class not getting along

[violetpretty]

Are you saying that you don't get along with your pledge class or the whole pledge class doesn't get along with each other (i.e. there's a split of some sort)?

[Arc]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Are you saying that you don't get along with your pledge class or the whole pledge class doesn't get along with each other (i.e. there's a split of some sort)?

To be specific, I have no drama with anyone else in the pledge class, but as a whole, the pledge class is extremely divided (our pledge class is only 9 girls). From the getgo, some of the girls have very bossy personalities and they have butted heads and are pretty rude to each other and make every meeting we have very awkward for the rest of us who are neutral and I feel it's killing any kind of bonding we could possibly do. I've already tried talking to the president and I'm waiting to see if she will help us resolve our problems.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Arc

To be specific, I have no drama with anyone else in the pledge class, but as a whole, the pledge class is extremely divided (our pledge class is only 9 girls). From the getgo, some of the girls have very bossy personalities and they have butted heads and are pretty rude to each other and make every meeting we have very awkward for the rest of us who are neutral and I feel it's killing any kind of bonding we could possibly do. I've already tried talking to the president and I'm waiting to see if she will help us resolve our problems.

We had 5 girls in mine, and a couple of those bossy types, so I can relate.

Your pledgemistress/pledge trainer/NM coordinator/whatever she's called - is she at the meetings or running them? She should be trying to diffuse some of the tension. It's really her job, not the president's, to do so.

If your sorority isn't that large then you're not going to be tied to your pledge class the rest of your college career - just be civil to each other long enough to get through pledging and then you can hang out with whatever sisters you want.

[SigKapAngel767]

Why doesn't each NM have dinner alone with another NM? Or other stuff? Set up different activities so each NM gets to spend time with another NM so they get to know each other better? I know this would be tough to do with bigger schools.


My pledge class of 10 did not get along at all. We couldn't have been any different. It took a while for us to get our act together, but in the end it all worked out. I still text message my pledge sisters to this day when I hear Mary J. Blige's song with the lyrics "NO MORE DRAMA IN OUR LIVES!"

[bejazd]

This question came up in conversation the other day ...I'm not sure. what do you all think? one opinion was that some of the "reality" tv shows that feature college age women are making fighting between girlfriends seem like a normal activity or something you do to get attention.

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by Arc

To be specific, I have no drama with anyone else in the pledge class, but as a whole, the pledge class is extremely divided (our pledge class is only 9 girls). From the getgo, some of the girls have very bossy personalities and they have butted heads and are pretty rude to each other and make every meeting we have very awkward for the rest of us who are neutral and I feel it's killing any kind of bonding we could possibly do. I've already tried talking to the president and I'm waiting to see if she will help us resolve our problems.

Do you want to remain in a house with these personalities for the next four years?

When a class is that small (mine was 6, but we all got along famously), one tends to think the chapter is also small (mine never got above 22 while I was there). What percentage of these women will be running the chapter in 3-4 years is a definite consideration.