Minorities and Suicide

[jessiwannabe]

Well If I get close to her and she feels that way,by me talking to her and comforting her no matter how hurt she is maybe ;I could talk her out of it. I could not talk my sister out of it because she never alerted me to it. Even if she doesn't alert me to her problem I could identify the sign more closely. Yes I did say I want to have the sister i've never had but just knowing someone is there for you when you need them talk or just knowing in your heart near or far you will always have a sister out there.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jessiwannabe

Well If I get close to her and she feels that way,by me talking to her and comforting her no matter how hurt she is maybe ;I could talk her out of it. I could not talk my sister out of it because she never alerted me to it. Even if she doesn't alert me to her problem I could identify the sign more closely. Yes I did say I want to have the sister i've never had but just knowing someone is there for you when you need them talk or just knowing in your heart near or far you will always have a sister out there.

Sweetheart, the issue is "WHAT" the person says "EXACTLY". Do they have a plan of action? Normally, suicidal people do not speak to others that is how they get away with the act. Resolution of the problem is deeply entrenched and takes a long time, sometimes many years to find. Generally, the first act is quell the illogical thinking if they are manic or psychotic and that usually done with medications. Once calm, then the physicians and therapists will attempt to stabilize their mood for a long defined time. Afterwards, the therapists will follow through and keep them in a plan of action and improvement.

More often than not, most suicidal prone people are chemically imbalanced which actually DO require medication and constant follow-through. Since, many African Americans have a problem with follow-through on their health the outcome is grim. The medications actually do may someone feel better. Some medications have side effects that overshoot the problem making a person feel too good. That is not the point to remove the medication, it just means there needs to be readjustment. But, I can tell you, it takes a long time.

No amount of talking without formal certificate or degreed training will ever change someone's mind if the problem is physical...

If you want to support your "sister", you would be armed with information ready to give to her. Train yourself in a peer-psych program or work with those in the clinical psych office... Your best gift of a "leading shoulder" and "listening ear", should at least be trained...

[jessiwannabe]

Well I believe that she had a mental battle. I still feel guilty because we shared a room together I should have known. If I was standing right in front of her before she did that I might have talked her out of it maybe maybe not, but if I did not say anything I would feel bad because I didn't even try. If my sister needed help I would try to at least talk to her before it got to that stge and if I see she needs more help than I could give her I will help her see someone.

Depression does not always end in suicide. Nothing is that bad for you to kill yourself. She did though. The worst would have happend the computer would have gotten taken or you can't go out untill those grade come up. Grades are important but not enough to take your own life. If my sister needed anything or any support I would be there regardless of how much she needs.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jessiwannabe

Well I believe that she had a mental battle. I still feel guilty because we shared a room together I should have known. If I was standing right in front of her before she did that I might have talked her out of it maybe maybe not, but if I did not say anything I would feel bad because I didn't even try. If my sister needed help I would try to at least talk to her before it got to that stge and if I see she needs more help than I could give her I will help her see someone.

Depression does not always end in suicide. Nothing is that bad for you to kill yourself. She did though. The worst would have happend the computer would have gotten taken or you can't go out untill those grade come up. Grades are important but not enough to take your own life. If my sister needed anything or any support I would be there regardless of how much she needs.

Well, the issue is your sister may have concealed her hurt and anger toward something that you may have been too young to know. Ultimately, your folks were responsible...

And I doubt that the loss of computer usage or poor grades would have caused your sister to take her own life successfully. The computer and grades were the "straws that broke the camel's back"... These items were a convenient target used to blame what happened...