Any ASU Greek Girls Out There? Need Advice Please

[AZMOM]

Dear Nitty & Sydney,
Thank-you for your input and honest replies. You've answered a very simple question with great detail and honesty.
Sydney, I got a laugh reading your response. You too, have a great sense of humor. Don't ever lose that, it's invaluable as you get older. However, I assure you the last thing I wanted or needed was a detailed description of the girls living in the house. Not sure where that assumption came from? I wanted the personality of each chapter. Ladies.....you will learn as you get older there's never such a thing as a dumb question. It's those who don't or didn't ask that live w/the most regret. I speak from experience. I've always taught my children ask a lot of ???'s before making a decision and always find out the good as well as the bad. You save yourself so much pain by being informed as opposed to being uninformed.The question wasn't to hurt or upset anyone it was to gather info. to make a decision based on the best knowledge given. It really is that simple....
Again, thanks for the laughs, the insight and hopefully we all learned something today?
Lunch anyone? lol Sorry, I love a good laugh......
Sincerely,
AZMOM

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

I wanted the personality of each chapter.

SydneyK said it best:

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Stereotypes are just that, and asking people to list stereotypes on a public forum is ill-mannered.

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Ladies.....you will learn as you get older there's never such a thing as a dumb question.

I think that the more time you spend around GreekChat you'll learn that the majority of us are alums from our organizations and range in age from 25-year olds to 50-year olds. So maybe you'll begin to understand that its not our age difference that is the problem-its the tactless question you've asked.

[AZMOM]

Lisa,
What ya say we call it a day? Not sure why you felt the need to attack but if it made you feel better, then great. My question was not tactless it was informative. Let's just move on, shall we?
Ladies, hope you all have a "great day."
Sincerely,
AZMOM

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Lisa,
What ya say we call it a day? Not sure why you felt the need to attack but if it made you feel better, then great. My question was not tactless it was informative. Let's just move on, shall we?
Ladies, hope you all have a "great day."
Sincerely,
AZMOM

If you felt "attacked" on this thread, then GC is NOT the place for you.

How about you take a trip over to Happy Pony Rainbow Land??

[Low C Sharp]

It'd be like me asking everyone you know to tell me what you're like, without getting to know you myself.

I think that's a bad example if you're trying to argue that it's inappropriate to inquire about sororities. If I'm going on a blind date, and I know people who have met my date before, I will definitely ask them all what they think of him. And if some of them answer, "He used to be a cokehead," or "he only likes people who have a lot of money," you better believe I'm going to take that into consideration! If multiple people who know him tell me that he's crazy...I'm canceling the date.
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[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

I think that's a bad example if you're trying to argue that it's inappropriate to inquire about sororities. If I'm going on a blind date, and I know people who have met my date before, I will definitely ask them all what they think of him. And if some of them answer, "He used to be a cokehead," or "he only likes people who have a lot of money," you better believe I'm going to take that into consideration! If multiple people who know him tell me that he's crazy...I'm canceling the date.

But you can't generalize an entire chapter of women off the descriptions of just 1 or 2 or 10 people. Thats pretty much what the original poster needs to understand.

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Not sure why you felt the need to attack but if it made you feel better, then great. My question was not tactless it was informative.

I've been one of the nicest people to you so far. If you stick around GC you might learn something, like the fact that your question is tactless and inconsiderate. I suggest you spend more time reading the existing threads regarding recruitment so that you don't continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.

[1908Revelations]

WHat is wrong with her wanting to help her pretty, smart, funny, loving, fug, great, so-on and so-on dtgr (lol) like every other ABCMom on GC. SHe just wants to know so she won't have to withdraw her daughter from a school where she won't get bids. Remember the mom who said Auburn sucked.


Just kidding....kinda

[Helicopter1]

Warned ya.

You seem like a nice person. Let's have cyberlunch.

I'd send you a PM, but my employers seem to think that work is more important than greekchat.

[33girl]

AZMOM - if you're concerned about things like hazing and such, I would do a search of the online edition of ASU's student newspaper and see if anyone's name comes up.

If you want to hear from people at ASU, I suggest collegeconfidential.com or looking on myspace, facebook and live journal sites pertaining to ASU.

Greek Chat is NOT going to tell you which house is which stereotype and which is the most and least popular.

[AZMOM]

Great info. 33girl. I just read your post (was answering private messages). I'll do just that. Thanks for the help.
Sincerely,
AZMOM

[AZMOM]

You're a doll Helicopter1. Cyberlunch on me. I'm realizing with each post how grateful I am to be away from all of this. However, it does make for fun reading and I needed a good laugh today. Forget work, I think I'll subscribe to Nat'l Enquirer after this forum.
Have a great day.....
Again, thanks
Sincerely,
AZMOM

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

However, I assure you the last thing I wanted or needed was a detailed description of the girls living in the house. Not sure where that assumption came from? I wanted the personality of each chapter.

The girls in the house ARE the ones who make up the personality of each chapter. Not the other way around. And with large chapters, it's very unlikely that everyone will share exactly the same values and interests.

No one is going to say "ABC is the athlete house" or "XYZ is the party house" because there are athletes and partiers in EVERY chapter.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

It's those who don't or didn't ask that live w/the most regret. I speak from experience. I've always taught my children ask a lot of ???'s before making a decision and always find out the good as well as the bad. You save yourself so much pain by being informed as opposed to being uninformed.

It is good to ask questions before joining a sorority, but in my opinion, an online forum is not the best place to do so. Your daughter should be speaking with current ASU students who are active members of various chapters (as well as alumnae). She should also consult the Greek Life Office if she has questions about membership in general. The internet is not going to give her the information she truly needs, especially if everyone on GreekChat were to chime in with their own opinions, gossip, etc. about the various ASU chapters (which as you know, isn't going to happen).

I can type on GC until my fingers are cramped about how great my sisterhood is, but unless you come and visit with members of my organization (actives and alumnae), and participate in our events and service projects that are open to all, you are not going to get a true sense of whether my organization is for you. This is why I say that your daughter should meet sorority members in person.

Further, every chapter is going to have "good" and "bad" sides to it. What matters is what is best for your daughter. Only she can make this decision. I think it's great that you are supportive of your daughter joining a sorority, so please continue to encourage her to seek out actual actives and alumnae in her area of the various organizations to help her with her decision-making process. Best of luck!

[AZMOM]

What a heartfelt answer Latina, thank-you!! You're absolutely right about not getting the info. I need on-line. The private messages I've gotten are awesome and very supportive. It really helped me in my second guessing of the Greek's along with answers like yours. My dtgr. is doing her best to get with other girls @ ASU but they are far and few between. She has a ton of friends from several schools including ASU but none belong or know of any who belong to a sorority. She'll keep looking, she's assertive and resourceful.
You're incredibly insightful, intelligent and sensitive Latina. Your sorority is very lucky to have you.
Again, thank-you
Sincerely,
AZMOM