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[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by SigmaTri2008

Even our leadership consultant pointed out that these are "oops" members and they may affect our chances of strong recruitment.

Am I the only one who thinks the leadership consultant is way out of line by saying this? Even if she thinks this is the case, she shouldn't share that belief with the chapter. Eventually, word will get around to these two ladies that their chapter (and even someone who isn't part of the chapter) thinks they were mistakes. And that can't ever be good.

I'm sorry your chapter is having to deal with this ST2008. It's never fun to have to deal with problem members. I guess I'm just stumped because sisters usually don't admit that women were voted on simply because of drama. When problem members become an issue (which happens in most chapters at one time or another, I'd suspect), it is rarely addressed publicly as something the chapter saw as a possibility if said members were extended bids.

Good luck dealing with this. I hope the suggestions you've gotten are helpful.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Am I the only one who thinks the leadership consultant is way out of line by saying this?

No. I'll go beyond that and say that someone who says something like that has no place being a leadership consultant. I don't know, none of these cute little quotes seem to really go with that... http://www.sigmasigmasigma.org/files/s_Who_at_NHQ.pdf

I just love when people present "hypothetical" situations when they've posted their chapter for all to see. I agree with whoever said that if I heard "well, we only gave 33girl a bid because we knew it would piss AlphaFrog off - we really don't like her" I wouldn't be likely to do anything that anyone suggested in terms of my appearance. Especially since I know they could care less about ME and MY happiness I might gain if I lose weight or whatever - all they care about is their sorority's image.

You're a young chapter. Consider this as a lesson learned when you're pressured in the future to pledge women to get your numbers up (only to have an LC come back 6 months later and say "what were you THINKING??") or when there's someone whose name coming up in membership selection divides the chapter. A chapter that colonized at my school took anyone to get the numbers to get that charter - they lost a lot of the movers and shakers that got the chapter started because of it and never really recovered.

You say that they're voting against women they think are "too good" - I won't ask about your (guess they're not very secret) MS practices, but it's their right to vote however they like. They're TWO people. Did their votes prevent anyone from getting a bid? If your chapter's that small, I think you have worse things than these two girls to worry about....