Image Problems.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Is it a physical/genetic problem - like they cannot help the way they look or do they lack self confidence, esteem and it translates in their behavior?

I'm with AKA_Monet on this one.

If it's a physical/genetic issue, they can't really help that.

If it's a personal hygiene (i'm pretty sure I misspelled that) issue (won't shower, brush teeth, comb their hair) - that would likely need to be addressed.

If it's just a "you don't go tanning and get weekly mani-pedis like everyone else" issue, then I think that should be a personal choice of theirs.

[VictoriaGermany]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

If it's just a "you don't go tanning and get weekly mani-pedis like everyone else" issue, then I think that should be a personal choice of theirs.

Haha, don´t tell me that´s the way it goes in US sororities. What sort of women want to have such image? That´s so superficial.

Isn´t the most important thing the character of a person and her will to support the sorority?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by VictoriaGermany

Haha, don´t tell me that´s the way it goes in US sororities. What sort of women want to have such image? That´s so superficial.

Isn´t the most important thing the character of a person and her will to support the sorority?

Texas*Princess was being sarcastic. No, that is not the "way it goes in US sororities," at least not with reference to their core principles. If you visit www.npcwomen.org, you will see that what many of these US sororities are really about. There are also NPHC sororities (different from NPC), and other independent sororities throughout the US.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

Texas*Princess was being sarcastic. No, that is not the "way it goes in US sororities," at least not with reference to their core principles. If you visit www.npcwomen.org, you will see that what many of these US sororities are really about. There are also NPHC sororities (different from NPC), and other independent sororities throughout the US.

right on

I guess sarcasm doesn't exist in Germany

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

right on

I guess sarcasm doesn't exist in Germany

Not to be mean to her, but a lot of times, sarcasm really does get "lost in translation." I know that when I translate from French to English it is sometimes difficult to understand the true meaning of what is being said; the subtle nuances don't go through, and you can't "read between the lines." I'm just trying to figure out if she is here to really learn information about American sororities, or if she is here to proliferate stereotypes... Sorry for the hijack!

[SWTXBelle]

It's tough to recommend much without more details, but it may be the best way to tackle the issue is to have a meeting/workshop on the issue for the whole chapter. That way, the two who are the problem don't feel singled out. If their problem is one of education, then the workshop should help. If not, well, then you may have to tackle it with the two individuals. Again, without details we are all kinda taking stabs in the dark.