UIUC Rush Story

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Well, that's not the argument that I would make, but it's probably not realistic to expect to effect much of a change in the general tone.

I suppose you can make a small difference by showing up and posting the responses that you think the OPs deserve, but lecturing other users just results in flame wars, and nobody ends up looking good.

Some of the worst train wreck threads seem to have "you guys are mean, mean bullies" as one of the recurring themes. It doesn't seem to help with the general image of Greek Life for everyone to look unhinged, in the name of kindness especially.

Just post your ideas but don't expect to control others, unless it's by inspiring example.

Are you the same poster who jumped all over me in this thread?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

Are you the same poster who jumped all over me in this thread?

Is that the one where you called someone out for basically being illiterate?

Probably.

I'm trying to make clear that I'm pro-kindness; I've just learned from personally experience that calling people out with mini-lectures hasn't been effective in the past.

It might work with a few of us, like you and me*, but generally, it's not going to be successful, and it's likely to explode.

How do I know this? Because I've done it.

ETA: * I mean that you are I are receptive to being reminded to be kind, even if we don't like being called for it.

EATA: I know that I made a couple of now-deleted posts to the effect that karma would probably take care of the situation early in this thread, but I honestly don't think I'm pro-meanness or pro-rudeness generally. I might be kidding myself.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Is that the one where you called someone out for basically being illiterate?

I remember it as the thread in which the OP posted borderline cruel remarks about some of the chapters in an almost incomprehensible manner. Actually, it was much like this one except this one is easier to read and in the other the OP pledged AGD. I find it interesting that you have been very critical in this thread of how some posters choose their battles. Maybe you are trying to say that you have "evolved" since then - or whatever the proper term should be.

[UGAalum94]

Maybe I just cut the other poster too much slack and couldn't take the heat from AlphaFrog about the secondary legacy issue in the thread.

I didn't remember the other poster being critical of some of the chapters, but honestly, it might have been because I couldn't follow the thread that well, and I guess you knew the chapters involved so you could, maybe?

I find this thread a weird place for the kindness to the OP debate to flare up.

I don't want the OP to be treated poorly, honestly, but I'm not sure her opinions about chapters are worth this appeal for deference and support. I think we all ought to be nice, but there's been on going sass and snark from the OP. I think she can handle mixing it up and kind of likes it. I didn't get that vibe from the learning disabled poster of the other thread.

[irishpipes]

In the other thread the OP went and edited her posts. She removed her reference to the fat sorority and other such remarks.

And just to calrify, I went to UIUC (this thread) not Oregon State (other thread) so that had nothing to do with my reaction to that poster's remarks.

Anyway, this was a total hijack. Sorry.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by MVisKD

I am APPALLED to see how disrespectful and plain rude most of the posters on GC have turned out to be...not only on this thread but so many others. It is really disappointing that so many greeks are using this website not to promote and enjoy their chapters, read about others' experiences and perhaps reminisce about their "glory days" but instead as a forum to make fun of others and stomp on others' self esteem.

No, it's much better to use this forum to go around revealing Membership Selection secrets. You're right, I'm sorry.

Originally Posted by MVisKD

I am with you!!!!!!!! Poor LMV came here for support and she is practically being hazed by all the gc'ers! I have already said this to her in a PM, but I know that I definitely was looking at the appearances of each chapter. It's just what we (as humans) do. That is not to say that my chapter was all of the best looking girls or that I cut other houses because of physical attributes/looks, but I remember walking into a house and looking around and thinking, "They are so cute!!!!!" And it is the same on the other side....It never failed that comments on score cards were "pretty" "cute" "adorable," not "smart," "witty," or "involved." (ok, sometimes they said that ) I think that especially at this point in her rush, looks and shallow convo's are all LMV has to go by. Let's cut her some slack!!!!!

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Maybe I just cut the other poster too much slack and couldn't take the heat from AlphaFrog about the secondary legacy issue in the thread.

Wasn't that the thread that didn't make an ounce of sense because the OP couldn't keep her animals straight?? Or was that another Retro that used animal names I'm thinking of?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Wasn't that the thread that didn't make an ounce of sense because the OP couldn't keep her animals straight?? Or was that another Retro that used animal names I'm thinking of?

That was alphagamphi. One of my fave retro threads.