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[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by MVisKD

I am APPALLED to see how disrespectful and plain rude most of the posters on GC have turned out to be...not only on this thread but so many others. It is really disappointing that so many greeks are using this website not to promote and enjoy their chapters, read about others' experiences and perhaps reminisce about their "glory days" but instead as a forum to make fun of others and stomp on others' self esteem.

I understand what you mean, but in this particular instance, the OP herself quoted two posts to call attention to them, and it's hard to see why that was a good thing for her to have done.

Why does she want to call attention to the possibilities that either only a few chapters will consider her as a junior or that she got cut heavily when junior status wouldn't have been the reason.

I wouldn't have pointed it out myself, and I was genuinely perplexed that she did.

I don't think I am usually one of the rude posters on the offensive, especially with new people, not that it matters, but having been so direct about many of the groups, can this OP expect others to treat her with kid gloves?

[MVisKD]

[quote=UGAalum94;1515281And you might be advised to turn down your self-righteousness as well. It's hardly in the spirit of good will and kindness.[/quote]

Pardon?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by MVisKD

Pardon?

I deleted that section because I saw your follow up post.

But yeah, if you're going to lecture people, you probably won't get a better response than you've been seeing. I know that from personal experience with the issue here.

There are some longtime regular posters who are really sassy. It seems mean, but they you kind of get used to it.

If I made all the rules, I'd like people to be sweeter, especially to new people, but most of the sassy folks have been on here the longest, so it's kind of their ball game.

We can play by their rules or go home.

[MVisKD]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I deleted that section because I saw your follow up post.

But yeah, if you're going to lecture people, you probably won't get a better response than you've been seeing. I know that from personal experience with the issue here.

There are some longtime regular posters who are really sassy. It seems mean, but they you kind of get used to it.

If I made all the rules, I'd like people to be sweeter, especially to new people, but most of the sassy folks have been on here the longest, so it's kind of their ball game.

We can play by their rules or go home.

I see.

It's kind of the whole "If you can't run with the big dogs, stay on the porch" type thing, huh?

I didn't join this forum to b*tch people out or judge their lives, and don't want to read others doing so either, so I guess I will bow out and stay on the porch, so to say.

Y'all have fun!

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by MVisKD

I see.

It's kind of the whole "If you can't run with the big dogs, stay on the porch" type thing, huh?

I didn't join this forum to b*tch people out or judge their lives, and don't want to read others doing so either, so I guess I will bow out and stay on the porch, so to say.

Y'all have fun!

Well, that's not the argument that I would make, but it's probably not realistic to expect to effect much of a change in the general tone.

I suppose you can make a small difference by showing up and posting the responses that you think the OPs deserve, but lecturing other users just results in flame wars, and nobody ends up looking good.

Some of the worst train wreck threads seem to have "you guys are mean, mean bullies" as one of the recurring themes. It doesn't seem to help with the general image of Greek Life for everyone to look unhinged, in the name of kindness especially.

Just post your ideas but don't expect to control others, unless it's by inspiring example.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Well, that's not the argument that I would make, but it's probably not realistic to expect to effect much of a change in the general tone.

I suppose you can make a small difference by showing up and posting the responses that you think the OPs deserve, but lecturing other users just results in flame wars, and nobody ends up looking good.

Some of the worst train wreck threads seem to have "you guys are mean, mean bullies" as one of the recurring themes. It doesn't seem to help with the general image of Greek Life for everyone to look unhinged, in the name of kindness especially.

Just post your ideas but don't expect to control others, unless it's by inspiring example.

Are you the same poster who jumped all over me in this thread?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

Are you the same poster who jumped all over me in this thread?

Is that the one where you called someone out for basically being illiterate?

Probably.

I'm trying to make clear that I'm pro-kindness; I've just learned from personally experience that calling people out with mini-lectures hasn't been effective in the past.

It might work with a few of us, like you and me*, but generally, it's not going to be successful, and it's likely to explode.

How do I know this? Because I've done it.

ETA: * I mean that you are I are receptive to being reminded to be kind, even if we don't like being called for it.

EATA: I know that I made a couple of now-deleted posts to the effect that karma would probably take care of the situation early in this thread, but I honestly don't think I'm pro-meanness or pro-rudeness generally. I might be kidding myself.