UIUC Rush Story

[littlemissvixen]

lol way to be positive? i didn't place a huge emphasis on her (at least when pref-ing, maybe on here it seemed like it a little more because i didn't have much to say). i wouldn't join a sorority for one girl (especially if the convos weren't that great), but it just gave me a positive outlook on that sorority going in because she was so fantastic.

oh, and about the philanthropy- they're all good causes, so i definitely wouldn't choose a sorority based on that. we get to learn about the philanthropies today though, so i'm excited!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I don't think PNMs choose a chapter based on it's philanthropy. For some PNMs, a chapter's philanthropy might have personal meaning (i.e. Mom had breast cancer or she is interested in becoming a cardiologist), but if the PNM doesn't click with the chapter, she won't join just because she likes their philanthropy. If it were based on philanthropy alone, I wouldn't have chosen my chapter. Besides, if a cause is that important to a PNM, she can always get involved with a group to raise money/volunteer for that cause.

But Alzheimer's research is a very worthy cause and a lot more interesting that Arthritis

[littlemissvixen]

one positive thing about both is that by the time i (and the other girls in the chapter) get old and have to worry about those things, hopefully they will have been cured because of our philanthropy; so really, we're just helping ourselves! it's perfect!

lol kidding :-p.

all of the philanthropies here not only seem like great causes, but the ways they raise money for them seem like alot of fun and a good way to bond.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

But Alzheimer's research is a very worthy cause and a lot more interesting that Arthritis

Ahem...ever had arthritis?

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I don't think PNMs choose a chapter based on it's philanthropy. For some PNMs, a chapter's philanthropy might have personal meaning (i.e. Mom had breast cancer or she is interested in becoming a cardiologist), but if the PNM doesn't click with the chapter, she won't join just because she likes their philanthropy. If it were based on philanthropy alone, I wouldn't have chosen my chapter. Besides, if a cause is that important to a PNM, she can always get involved with a group to raise money/volunteer for that cause.

Actually, there was a girl in my pledge class that was a diabetic, and had been nearly all her life. Our philanthrophy was Juvenile Diabetes. She always said that was the reason she pledged. I can only take her word for it.

[MVisKD]

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

Actually, there was a girl in my pledge class that was a diabetic, and had been nearly all her life. Our philanthrophy was Juvenile Diabetes. She always said that was the reason she pledged. I can only take her word for it.

Surely she liked the girls in the chapter as well?

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by MVisKD

Surely she liked the girls in the chapter as well?

I think so!

[jwsteele]

Originally Posted by 33girl

yeah, but did you talk to her at rush at all? Is she still your BFF or something? Does she even know who you are?

I mean, it's nice that you think so highly of her that you're willing to overlook the "boring conversations" you had with her sisters, but for all you know she could have turned into a total jerk over the past 3 years.

Just doesn't make sense to me.

I'm confused...are you just being argumentative? She's saying that a woman she has respected for a very long time is in that chapter and she viewed that as a positive. Maybe I'm weird but that makes complete 100% sense to me, if there was somebody I respected in a chapter it would definitely make me take a second look at it.

[UGAalum94]

Are people wishing her a bad rush or just expecting her to have one based on what she has said and the standards she is using? We think her results will be disappointing to her more than they'd be disappointing to us.

Here's what I think we are going with: often the very most desirable chapters are the ones who are most attractive and have great rushers with cute personalities, great pedicures, and campus involvement.

These are also, unfortunately for LMV, the chapters least likely to bid a junior, unless the junior quota/free juniors really changes things.

So, when she's writing off chapters left and right for being boring and so-so, she's setting herself up, and when she and others defend the "we all judge by appearances" outlook and "all PNMS are superficial," which I don't dispute but don't think are really worth defending either, she will basically face a pretty good probability of getting a bid that she's already talked herself out of.

On the upside, if she is real, she's now showing the forsight to hold her posts until she knows the outcome.

One other thing: I don't think anyone in this thread was "threatening" to expose her on campus and ruin her rush, they are warning her how easy it would apparently be, and the poster than I think was being accused of being less discreet is an alumna. Barring saying something offensive to her group, she's got nothing to worry about.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

But Alzheimer's research is a very worthy cause and a lot more interesting that Arthritis

Oh yeah, no doubt, tons of people have lot grandparents to Alzheimer's. But it just wouldn't stick out to me as my favorite cause. I think my favorite philanthropy was Alpha Chi Omega's support of victims of domestic violence.

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

Actually, there was a girl in my pledge class that was a diabetic, and had been nearly all her life. Our philanthrophy was Juvenile Diabetes. She always said that was the reason she pledged. I can only take her word for it.

Obviously she had to have meshed well with the chapter, so it was a bonus that AGD has a philanthropy that is important to her.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by jwsteele

Or was she cut simply because she is a junior, like everybody predicted? Not even the least socially intelligent girls, from the ones I've met in my experience on campus, would say those things to girls faces or make it bluntly apparent...and if they did as a junior, I'd wager a guess that they'd have less than 6 parties to attend. Just like in the case of many many many other Greeks (and the shallow comments apply just as much to fraternity rush...can they play football, pull girls, are 6'3" and drink a lot?) shallow comments at the beginning show more about their naivete in the situation than it does about their character...give them a bit of time as actual sisters and they will understand it comes down to sisterhood. Give her some slack, I know some incredible girls who got incredible returns who expressed MUCH worse opinions than what she's said. It's not mature but it's certainly not rare.

There is a junior quota this year. If she is getting released, it has nothing to do with her class standing.

[littlemissvixen]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Junior quota is new, so I can't comment on chances of getting a bid as a junior. Without it, there were only 3-5 chapters that would take juniors, but I don't know if that has changed.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

There is a junior quota this year. If she is getting released, it has nothing to do with her class standing.

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[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

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What dots do you want me to connect because I'm not seeing anything?

[littlemissvixen]

Admits she doesn't know, then claims she does...????

[UGAalum94]

Well, she might know more now that two rounds of cuts have been made. You know that she has tight connections on your campus, right?

But, no offense, there's really no upside for you with either scenario is there?