Disaffiliating?

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Originally Posted by katie4480

On campus it's the ONE house that doesn't have a stereotype or reputation because SO many types of girls seem to join it. Unfortunately, I just don't seem to be fitting into any of them. Everyone is friendly on the surface and says "hi" if I go sit next to them at chapter dinner, for example, but they always seem to talk about inside jokes and personal things. My big (despite really liking her when she preffed me) really just only spends time with her boyfriend, and we really aren't close at all.

NOT having a stereotype is a good thing. Why would you want to be Katie, the stereotypical XYZ?

also, it ALWAYS takes time to fit in a group. Inside jokes will be made. And it sounds like you have a HUGE chapter. you're not going to be BFF with every sister, but start small. stop skipping events. how else are you going to be in on the "inside jokes" if you're not around?

and remember it could all be one huge misunderstanding. you interpret them as being cliquey, standoffish, etc. when they could be looking at you like "what's her deal? she doesn't like us, why doesn't she make the effort?" remember it's a big group so it's easier to get lost in the shuffle. DON'T get lost!

and disaffiliating is jus going to cause more drama. so... give it a try. talk it over with someone. there's gotta be at least ONE person in your pledge class you are on decent terms with.