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Originally Posted by augreekmom
This is the thing that has so confused my daughter and I can understand why. She went through rush and received the maximum invitations each time. As the cuts were made with each round, she kept getting invited back to her favorites. On pref. day, her choices are determined by her feelings for a group and what she perceives as their feelings about her. When you are told on your visits that the sorority feels great about you and what you can offer them and the feeling is mutual, you are reassured because they keep inviting you back. They become your top choices. As the process goes on, you cut those that you may have liked, but were unsure of so you end up limiting yourself in what you can write on that pref. list at the end. She now wishes she wouldn't have cut some from her list because she was basing her choices on possible false impressions. You can't get those back. Am I looking at this the wrong way?
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You can always look at what might have been...but ultimately you need to look at what is. It's my understanding that ALL of the organizations at Auburn are outstanding. Things happen, not everyone ends up at their first choice, but it's up to the person to make the best of the situation.
Recruitment is not a "for sure" process and ultimately the chapters choose the women that they feel best fit their needs, creed, values, etc. We as members and non-members both can't second guess their process because we were not there. Why not let it be and let your daughter figure it out? Are you sure that your daughter is not having the chance to fully enjoy it because she knows how you feel about the situation? I'm not being snarky here, just asking a question.
Quite a few women on GC have not gotten their first choice org in recruitment, and some have not gotten in at all. I didn't get my first choice, but you know what? I'm happier for it now because I made the best of it and found people in my organization that I could relate to, and ultimately joining a sorority is so much more than the 4 years one is a collegian.
ETA: I can also almost guarantee you that not everyone in her org. is about getting trashed and partying...the sheer size of each of the chapters at Auburn leads me to believe that there is a little bit of everything in each one. If she truly is unhappy, then she should depledge before initiation. However she should know that with recruitment the way it is at Auburn, she may not be able to get a bid as a sophomore.
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