Passport cost $311k in back child support

James · #1 08-15-2007, 08:15 PM

Yah, but it doesn't provide the mom or dad with a lot of incentive to pay either.

There is probably some study that shows that the more time the non-custodial parent spends with his/her child the better the payment record.

I always thought that regardless of "custody" the parent that is paying child support should have to spend a significant amount of time with the child.

Its harder to neglect someone you see all the time. "out of sight, out of mind."

On the other hand, I always thought that the parent receiving the child support should be directly accountable for where the money is spent.

I am also generally in favor of a trust option where the money is in a custodial account either managed by a third party, or the custodial parent, but where there has to a record of where the money goes.

Keeps honest people honest.

Quote:

Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

You know though, Kevin, that it doesn't entitle them to withhold the money right? Even if the kids think that Dad is a serial killer, they still have to eat.

sageofages · #2 08-15-2007, 08:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by James

There is probably some study that shows that the more time the non-custodial parent spends with his/her child the better the payment record.

I always thought that regardless of "custody" the parent that is paying child support should have to spend a significant amount of time with the child.

Its harder to neglect someone you see all the time. "out of sight, out of mind."

Keeps honest people honest.

Not always....in my daughters cases (both are in their 20s now)

my oldest daughter's father saw her every single visitation, holidays and then some. I kept a decent relationship with him. He paid his support ontime....until the day he and his second wife divorced. The support payments stopped. Come to find out she was the one writing the checks. She and I get along wonderfully (crazy isn't it

) He continued to see her as dictated by our paternity agreement. And to date he owes me about $8,000.

Youngest daughter's father was court order no visitation. He pays only when the "state" finds him through his employer. To date he still owes around $35,000. She prefers to ignore his existence.

Lawyers want 1/3 of the amount due to them. The state will hunt these guys down for free eventually. I don't really need the money anymore, but I use it as a torture device anymore...and I admit it.

SoCalGirl · #3 08-16-2007, 03:04 AM

About VA - they are serious. When I worked in auto claims I inherited a file that was pending because the total loss check still had to be paid. We couldn't pay it because VA Dept of Child Services put a lien on the car due to delinquent child support. I'd get calls from the case worker and I'd have to transfer her to our legal counsel. Then the policyholder's grown children started coming out of the wood work to try and get the money themselves. Meanwhile, the policy holder is practically a vegetable from the accident and has a $1,000,000 PLUS medical bill. I'm sure somewhere the hospital was trying to figure out how to get the money themselves. The sad thing is that it was only about a $12K payout!

DeltAlum · #4 08-15-2007, 10:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by James

.
There is probably some study that shows that the more time the non-custodial parent spends with his/her child the better the payment record.

Not the case with our daughter's ex. He and/or his parents see his daughter a couple of times a week, and he hasn't paid a cent.

"I would like to see this set so a person can't LEAVE the country even, if they owe."

I kind of like that idea, but I'd change it around a little so that until he has paid up, don't let him back in.

ForeverRoses · #5 08-16-2007, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeltAlum

I kind of like that idea, but I'd change it around a little so that until he has paid up, don't let him back in.

That's not a bad idea! Now if only I could get my ex-brother-in-law to leave the country...

DeltAlum · #6 08-18-2007, 12:16 AM

Now, let's think of some really ugly places to strand them...

Drolefille · #7 08-18-2007, 02:08 AM

I know in Illinois it's on the application to get a hunting or fishing license.

There's a section that requires you to attest that you do not owe child support, or something saying that you do. If you check that you do, I don't think you get the license... and they report you. If you check that you don't, and you're caught lying the fine is STEEP. So at the very least it adds an extra penalty onto a deadbeat's back.