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Old 08-12-2007, 06:11 PM
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I do understand the notion of not wanting your loved ones to be unhappy and grieving with them, but then there is a time to 'pull yourself up by your boot straps'! After you pat your kid on the back you shouldn't say "What is wrong with my daughter?" Tell her about other organizations to belong to. Greek life is not everything. Believe it or not if someones wonderful, brilliant, super smart rhodes scholar daughter gets cut....the world keeps going.

I think I am like AlphaGamUGA's mom: Give words of encouragement then tell em' "Yeah, that's too bad....now move on"
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Old 08-12-2007, 06:21 PM
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Momto2 will probably calm down and help her daughter move on after she's had a while to think. If her daughter has always wanted a sorority experience, it may take a little time for them to regroup. Some people (me included) need to blow off steam. Let's face it, though. The sorority experience can be terrific, and it's sad and disappointing to think you may not get to be a part of something that special.

I agree that the pnms are doing all they can and need no more pressure or blame from anyone if they are cut. (I would quote AChiOhSnap, but I not too good at quoting). Very seldom is a cut a personal thing, as we all know. On the other hand, if you're the one that's been cut by everyone, it has to hurt. While I agree that we should all be strong enough to move on, I can honestly say that I would have probably felt sad and rejected if this had happened to my child or me.

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Old 08-12-2007, 06:54 PM
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I think that parents sometimes overmagnify their childrens' "problems". I personally deal with lots and lots of college students and their parents everyday. I recently had a parent call in worried that her son's first semester schedule was *too easy* and wanted to know if "people" (Who? Employers? Grad schools?) would look down on him later for not picking a more challenging first semester as a freshman.

In my experiences, the student may be worried or upset; but, the parent often *adds to it*. Sometimes the student isn't bothered at all; but some parents can turn a survivable situation into an international incident.

I was a little concerned about the one mom's statements that maybe her daughter selected the wrong school based on the recruitment results. Wow. I understand being upset for your child; but wow. A university is for an education. The co-curricular activities are great; but, pick a university where you will be in a solid program for your major.

I was also intrigued by her comments regarding being in a sorority so that she can get priority housing next year. To me, that seems like a poor reason to join. If the daughter was saying things like that to the women in the sororities, then that may have something to do with her being cut.

For those of you with kids, I've been reading your reasonings and I can only try to understand. Perhaps when I'm a parent, I will understand better. However, as someone who deals with parents of college students, you all don't realize how awkward you sound sometimes.
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Old 08-12-2007, 07:04 PM
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OTW...Thank you for your support on my comment on the Auburn thread! I am a mom myself and although I have 14 more years to go before my daughter goes through recruitment, there is NO WAY I could ever make comments like she did if my daughter was not successful during rush. I agree with everything 1908 & AChiOSnap has said as well...

I'm not sorry that I said it and I can't help it if I thought it came across as really bitchy to say something like that to your daughter who just had a major disappointment (?)...Not to mention her mom wanting her to join so she could get priority housing?

Anyway, OTW...you are my Hawaiian Hero!

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